Comments on: WHEN YOU CAN’T FORGIVE http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/ FROM THE EVERYDAY . . . TO THE SLIGHTLY OUTRAGEOUS . . . TO THE EVERLASTING . . . WE COVER IT HERE! Mon, 06 Oct 2008 21:43:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: DJ in Houston http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-584 DJ in Houston Tue, 30 Oct 2007 21:15:02 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-584 Thanks Corinne... :) Thanks Corinne…

:)

]]> By: Corinne http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-522 Corinne Wed, 24 Oct 2007 17:58:37 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-522 Dear Franciso - Thanks for stopping by! Yes, forgiveness is tough. Sometimes it takes a lifetime. You have a great wedding site if anyone here is getting married or has a big event! Dear Franciso -

Thanks for stopping by!

Yes, forgiveness is tough. Sometimes it takes a lifetime.

You have a great wedding site if anyone here is getting married or has a big event!

]]> By: DJinHouston http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-516 DJinHouston Wed, 24 Oct 2007 14:18:14 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-516 This is a great article, especially since we all have at least one or two people in our lives that we just simply cannot forgive no matter what we try. This is a great article, especially since we all have at least one or two people in our lives that we just simply cannot forgive no matter what we try.

]]> By: Travel Betty http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-515 Travel Betty Wed, 24 Oct 2007 03:31:26 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-515 It took me until my thirties to truly understand how healthy and liberating forgiveness is. I think your point about "your not letting someone off the hook" is a good one because that's the fear most people have. They think if they forgive, they are somehow saying it was okay to have committed the action. Once a person is able to separate forgiveness from approval they are on their way to healing themselves! I also loved your point about how you wouldn't take it personally if a person from a mental institution screamed at you. I read that and thought, "of COURSE not!" It seems so clear when you put it in those terms. Great post! It took me until my thirties to truly understand how healthy and liberating forgiveness is. I think your point about “your not letting someone off the hook” is a good one because that’s the fear most people have.

They think if they forgive, they are somehow saying it was okay to have committed the action. Once a person is able to separate forgiveness from approval they are on their way to healing themselves!

I also loved your point about how you wouldn’t take it personally if a person from a mental institution screamed at you. I read that and thought, “of COURSE not!” It seems so clear when you put it in those terms. Great post!

]]> By: Personal Growth with Corinne Edwards » ABOUT “WHEN YOU CAN’T FORGIVE” - A comment from Peg Barry http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-470 Personal Growth with Corinne Edwards » ABOUT “WHEN YOU CAN’T FORGIVE” - A comment from Peg Barry Thu, 18 Oct 2007 18:04:19 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-470 [...] www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/ [...] [...] http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/ [...]

]]> By: peg barry http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-464 peg barry Wed, 17 Oct 2007 23:20:58 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-464 <p><p><p><p><p><p>Exceptional advice. All my life I heard, "You must forgive" but NO ONE every explained just HOW .. I think they just didn't know themselves. </p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Used to bug the hell out of me ...Think about it-- did anyone every give you the tools on just HOW to forgive. If they did, please share that info with the planet because outside of this brilliant information,nothing gets the job fully finished. Yeah, you can burn a candle and say "I forgive you" a million times but it doesn't really work.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>What do you do and how do you do it. Just HOW can you forgive?????. I know that without these tools, forgiveness can not be fully and totally accomplished. I'm sure of this because I tried so hard and for so long . It/they still hung on -- The dictionary says forgiveness is "to grant pardon for an offense" Well, my friends. I used every little trick in the book and nothing ever completely worked until I did began to become aware and then the awareness became understanding.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>First the light and then the dawn. For instance, you have a problem with your mother, she may even be dead for 20 years but "it" - the old pull to bad memory is still there. Imagine her as a 6 month old baby and image her mother and father, and her grandmother and grandfather and the village that they came from. Imagine their religious environment and its oftentime limiting constraints and that neighborhood and those relatives... maybe the poverty or abuse. Could she, based on her "stuff" do any better than she did at the time? Work (ahh, the real 4 letter word!!!) at becoming aware of her life -- Aware of her plight. Step out you your Narissism and "see". And remember, a person cannot give what they do not have. The comes the understanding and the final letting go.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Those souls reading this blog are so much more enlightened than people were even just 10 years ago. We have the blessing of knowledge that was just slightly coming in the 60's ... well, kids, it's here now and full-blown and ready for anyone who wants to self-heal. I always say that today - "If you don't get better - it's because you don't want to get better this lifetime".... I wish I knew then what I know now --- enough of that !!!! I am blessed to have this simple information at my fingertips now and guess what!!!! I'm using it-- I am pardoning myself for my own offense of not taking better care of myself. I do so want to be aware and understand so that I can truly forgive and let go and not be pulled back into those haunting memories. I'm telling you it works if you have the self-love to go there!!! You can even use this on yourself. Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Oh, just do it -- you know you're going to do it sometime anyway - make it THIS lifetime. And Corinne, I would love to see more blogs on this subject - the world is such a better place because you are sharing your lifetime experiences with us all. "Stay the course" as Thomas More once told me to do!!</p></p></p></p></p></p> <p><p><p><p><p>Exceptional advice. All my life I heard, “You must forgive” but NO ONE every explained just HOW .. I think they just didn’t know themselves. </p><br /><br /><br /><br />
<p>Used to bug the hell out of me …Think about it– did anyone every give you the tools on just HOW to forgive. If they did, please share that info with the planet because outside of this brilliant information,nothing gets the job fully finished. Yeah, you can burn a candle and say “I forgive you” a million times but it doesn’t really work.</p><br /><br /><br /><br />
<p>What do you do and how do you do it. Just HOW can you forgive?????. I know that without these tools, forgiveness can not be fully and totally accomplished. I’m sure of this because I tried so hard and for so long . It/they still hung on — The dictionary says forgiveness is “to grant pardon for an offense” Well, my friends. I used every little trick in the book and nothing ever completely worked until I did began to become aware and then the awareness became understanding.</p><br /><br /><br /><br />
<p>First the light and then the dawn. For instance, you have a problem with your mother, she may even be dead for 20 years but “it” - the old pull to bad memory is still there. Imagine her as a 6 month old baby and image her mother and father, and her grandmother and grandfather and the village that they came from. Imagine their religious environment and its oftentime limiting constraints and that neighborhood and those relatives… maybe the poverty or abuse. Could she, based on her “stuff” do any better than she did at the time? Work (ahh, the real 4 letter word!!!) at becoming aware of her life — Aware of her plight. Step out you your Narissism and “see”. And remember, a person cannot give what they do not have. The comes the understanding and the final letting go.</p><br /><br /><br /><br />
<p>Those souls reading this blog are so much more enlightened than people were even just 10 years ago. We have the blessing of knowledge that was just slightly coming in the 60’s … well, kids, it’s here now and full-blown and ready for anyone who wants to self-heal. I always say that today - “If you don’t get better - it’s because you don’t want to get better this lifetime”…. I wish I knew then what I know now — enough of that !!!! I am blessed to have this simple information at my fingertips now and guess what!!!! I’m using it– I am pardoning myself for my own offense of not taking better care of myself. I do so want to be aware and understand so that I can truly forgive and let go and not be pulled back into those haunting memories. I’m telling you it works if you have the self-love to go there!!! You can even use this on yourself. Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself.</p><br /><br /><br /><br />
<p>Oh, just do it — you know you’re going to do it sometime anyway - make it THIS lifetime. And Corinne, I would love to see more blogs on this subject - the world is such a better place because you are sharing your lifetime experiences with us all. “Stay the course” as Thomas More once told me to do!!</p></p></p></p></p>

]]> By: Lisa Natoli http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-442 Lisa Natoli Mon, 15 Oct 2007 21:34:22 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-you-cant-forgive/#comment-442 Beautiful!!!!!! Corinne, i love it. forgiveness is the absolute most important thing. The reason why all my focus and dedication was aimed at total forgiveness is because of a line in ACIM that says "forgiveness does make lovely, but it does not create". My mind practically sprang a chord when i read that sentence. I am getting chills now as i write it. Total forgiveness, to me, is where the journey begins. This is where it gets fun because you're in Heaven. It's where creation begins. So many people think forgiveness is the final goal, but actually it's just the END of the human experience and the beginning of the God experience. For me, I totally agree with your post. I had that one person, and i couldn't let go - until one fine day when I really saw that above all else, I want the peace of God. From there, forgiveness was the easiest thing in the world then, and now me and this person are best friends! You're right - we must be soul mates! love, lisa Beautiful!!!!!! Corinne, i love it.

forgiveness is the absolute most important thing. The reason why all my focus and dedication was aimed at total forgiveness is because of a line in ACIM that says “forgiveness does make lovely, but it does not create”. My mind practically sprang a chord when i read that sentence. I am getting chills now as i write it. Total forgiveness, to me, is where the journey begins. This is where it gets fun because you’re in Heaven. It’s where creation begins. So many people think forgiveness is the final goal, but actually it’s just the END of the human experience and the beginning of the God experience. For me, I totally agree with your post. I had that one person, and i couldn’t let go - until one fine day when I really saw that above all else, I want the peace of God. From there, forgiveness was the easiest thing in the world then, and now me and this person are best friends!

You’re right - we must be soul mates!

love, lisa

]]>