THE SECRET – How’s that workin’ for ya?

by Corinne

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It is still all about The Secret. Yep, it has not faded.

I still hear people talking about setting an event in their minds.  Concentrating on it with all their might.

Then seeing themselves with their heart’s desire.


When I ask what they have done to make it happen, I get a blank stare.

Guess I am not spiritual enough.  I must not be doing it right.


My awareness of spirituality began when I was ten years old and from a devout Catholic family.  I began to seriously doubt what they were teaching me in school.


1.  God was not an old man with a beard who was keeping records on me.  There was some force out there but I did not know what to call it.

2.  Jesus was no more God than I was.  He was probably just in a higher grade. Maybe High School

3.  God would not send you to hell if you ate meat on Friday or missed Mass.

4.  No loving God would doom innocent babies who were not baptized to Limbo.

5.  Nothing bad would happen to me if I went into a Protestant church.

6.  I had this funny feeling I had lived in this world before.  That there was something inside me that had nothing to do with the body I was in right now.

Catholics laugh and call people like this a “Delicatessen Catholic” in these days.  You are tolerated if you just take a little of this and a little of that and believe what you want.  Not then.

I am not knocking these great spiritual and self-help books.  They are inspiring to many people.  Keep reading them if they help you.

But, what I learned early was this.  If you really, really want something, it is not going to happen if you don’t do something to get it.  You can’t just put it out to the Universe because this does not work.

For example, what my brother Henry (7) and I (8) really, really wanted was to go to the Rialto movie theatre on Flatbush Avenue on Saturdays.  It cost seven cents each.

We spent the entire week looking through people’s garbage for bottles.  You got two cents return for each bottle.

We went to the movies every week.

When I was twenty six I had two children and was pregnant.  The gas company came and turned off my heat for nonpayment despite my pleas that one of my children was ill.

I really, really decided that was never, never going to happen to me again.  I got a job as a real estate salesman and I was successful because I really, really wanted to be able to pay my bills.

I was able to buy an even nicer home but I never paid the gas company until they actually came to my house to turn off the heat.  There was a rule that they had to ring the doorbell and inform you your gas was being turned off.  The check was waiting but they had to come and get it.  I would never mail it.

An big inconvenience for them, but –

I really, really got even.

I have to admit that esoteric spiritual books did one important thing for me.  Many confirmed everything I already knew at ten.  It is a comfort to know you are right in some quarters.

The key to The Secret is if you want something you have to want it bad.  Really want it.  Then, you have follow your intuition and go out and get it.  You can’t just envision it in your mind.

The missing ingredient for most followers is taking action.  Listening to your intuition and then watching for your spot and going for it with all your heart.  With all your wanting.

But, I am really, really hoping to get spiritual someday soon.

Maybe I’ll even learn to do The Secret right.

How’s it working for you?


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Lesley August 16, 2010 at 10:54 am

I couldn’t agree more. I work with lots of people who’ve been scammed. It’s wrong. No one should scam, but the reason they were scammed was often that they were expecting something to ‘just happen’.

I believe in the power of prayer, but like you Corinne I learned early that praying for a new dolls house wasn’t going to get it for me. These days I still wrestle with that one. Why is it right to pray for somethings and not for others? I have no answer to that one – it’s a mystery, to me at least, but what I find in practice is that if I can do something, I take action. If I can’t, I pray.

This afternoon I know I’m going to meet with a lovely lady who will tell me how disappointed she is in her e-business and how it hasn’t made any sales. I’ll ask her if her website gets any visitors and she’ll tell me she doesn’t know. She thought if she built it they would come. But no.
I’ll have to show her that technically she’s a silent voice in a wide web wilderness, and the person who sold her a website, the ‘secret’ to guaranteed work from home income, had only told her a tiny portion of the story. She can want that income with all her heart, but I’m not going to advise her to pray for it, or invoke the law of attraction, or any of these other ‘secrets’ of success. If she wants it to be real, then like the rest of us, she needs to take action.
Thanks Corinne, another great post.
.-= Lesley´s last blog ..How to Teach Your Shark To Sing =-.


August 16, 2010 at 11:38 am

Dear Lesley –

I prayed and prayed for ballet shoes.

The prayers were never answered although that was my greatest desire.

My family might have been able to scrape up the cost of the shoes – but not the lessons.

So I would never have made the Bolshoi.

Now, if I had been able to enlist my brother Henry –

But he would not have cooperated unless it was for tickets to see the Brooklyn Dodgers.

Maybe in my next lifetime.

Thanks for your always thoughtful comments.


Debbie from Happy Maker
August 16, 2010 at 11:05 am

Actually i believe “The Secret” is really about positive thinking. When we think something isn’t going to happen it doesn’t, when we think it will happen it does and it is because of our actions, not lying in bed looking at the ceiling wishin and hopen. Great post Corinne. You always put a smile on my face.
.-= Debbie @ Happy Maker´s last blog ..The red shoes of happiness =-.


August 16, 2010 at 11:40 am

Well, Debbie – I have to say that you are the Queen of Positive Thinking.

And you actually do what you say you are going to do – even when you’re scared.

Thanks for being our poster child.


August 16, 2010 at 11:24 am

How correct. I have seen organizations that added one more step. They say that unless you give them a big donation then these things don’t happen. When they don’t happen, then you don’t have enough faith. The answer to that is more donations. Beware of that secret.
.-= Bruce´s last blog ..Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-08-15 =-.


August 16, 2010 at 11:44 am

Dear Bruce –

As you say –

“They say that unless you give them a big donation then these things don’t happen. When they don’t happen, then you don’t have enough faith.”

What about their faith, I ask.

This is especially true with the TV preachers who promise to pray for your intention. Not so many anymore. But some are still out there. They use the same excuse. You did not give enough money.

They always give me the creeps.


Michelle Vandepas August 16, 2010 at 12:31 pm

Hi Corinne,

I agree – you’ve got to do some WORK, some action to make it happen! and then, I agree ACTION, and I also use visualization, and prayer, and energy techniques, vision boards….as well. All of it together. Then it works.
.-= Michelle Vandepas´s last blog ..Author Interview with Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi- Restoring Sanity to your End-of-Life Care =-.


August 16, 2010 at 12:35 pm

Dear Michelle –


The Universe does not have a chance with you on the job.

I’m going to send you all my intentions from now on.

Can you just include them in the mix?


Sharon Beck August 16, 2010 at 12:32 pm

Great post Corinne,

It brought to mind the phrase I learned one Sunday when I visited a Science of Mind gathering. They call prayer “Spiritual Mind Treatment”. So the phrase they use is “Treat (pray) and Move Your Feet”.

I’ve never been really able to pray myself. It always seemed like I was an ingrate if I prayed. I feel like I should just say “Thanks” and leave it at that.

Your appreciative fan,


August 16, 2010 at 12:38 pm

Dear Sharon –

One of my favorite authors, Dr. Larry Dossey, an Internist, who writes on prayer always says –

Good wishes toward someone is prayer – doing things to make you healthy is prayer.

Living a life of goodness is prayer. Helping someone is prayer.

Seems to me, Sharon, you are praying all the time.


Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny
August 16, 2010 at 2:25 pm

I concentrate my experience with the Secret in the area of complaining. It seems to me that if I hang around with people who are complaining, things just seem darker. My action in that moment is to get the heck out of there. I work to keep complainers at bay. I call it managing my space. But there you go, action is required.
.-= Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny´s last blog ..TGIF Links Wonders What Does Your Tag Line Promise =-.


August 17, 2010 at 12:00 pm

I agree totally, Cheryl. Toxic people can actually invade your space and what they call in metaphysical terms, your “aura”

You can’t help but pick up other people’s energy.

One of the teachers I had at one time suggested that every night you clean your aura.

It extends about three feet outside your body. He said start from the top – brush it off starting from your head – back and front and down to the floor.

Now, the important part. Pick it up and throw it up into the Love of the Universe. Then it is out of your “space.”

Try it. Works for me. I can actually feel the difference.

Let me know what you think of this.


Evan August 16, 2010 at 3:46 pm

The problem is the movie actually emphasised not taking action. With this I heartily disagree.


August 17, 2010 at 12:06 pm

The teaching of “The Secret” came from the Abraham channelling from Esther Hicks. Her husband is Jerry.

You might want to just take a look at what they say. It is a little different.

There are many sites on the Internet if you want to search. And examples of the channelling.

They were supposed to be in the movie – and backed out at the last minute.

I wonder what they did not approve of. I think that because the Abraham teachings do included action.

I attended one of their seminars. It took a much different twist.


Nea | Self Improvement Saga
August 16, 2010 at 6:20 pm

I agree that we have to also take action. There are things about “The Secret” that I like, but sometimes what you attract are ideas. If your thinking aligns with financial freedom, you can’t just sit there and wait for money to drop in your lap. However, I think you can attract opportunities that lead you to take inspired action. That’s the secret for me.
.-= Nea | Self Improvement Saga´s last blog ..Do You Love and Value Yourself Unconditionally =-.


August 17, 2010 at 12:27 pm

Nea – that is the exact point.

I hear from people who follow the program what they do is just wait for things to happen.

When you focus on your intention you do get ideas.

And from them, come opportunities.

And action must be taken. Or the whole thing is a waste.

Really appreciate your weighing in here. Always enjoy your blog and stumble you often.


Kara August 16, 2010 at 6:39 pm

I tried reading the secret, but found like yourself, the secret is in determination and diligence to the goal. There are times I’d like to take the word “hope” out of people’s vocabulary. It seems people put too much value on the word. Hope should be a last resort, after all has been tried and all effort has been put forth. The words I generally hear after someone doesn’t get what the “hoped” for are, “God must not want me to have that”…..

I believe in Pure, Positive and Powerful energy, good attitude and the willingness to do whatever has to be done to achieve a goal or outcome.

I had to chuckle a little at the Catholic references, as I am a 48 year old Catholic, and didn’t learn till much later than you about reality vs. scary interpretations of religion. I was told that if you thought it, it was as bad as doing it, still a sin…., that if you ate meat on Friday’s you’d likely burn in hell, I remember vividly having a paper napkin stuck on my head before mass because women had to have their heads covered….

Thanks for the great article and chuckle from the past….


August 17, 2010 at 12:39 pm

Dear Kara –

I have always heard that the flip side of hope is despair. Yes, we should get rid of the word.

I don’t think “God” gives us anything. It is up to us and our free will.
But I do believe in the power of prayer and that Unseen Being is an energy which can help us through our lives. We do have to ask though.

Yeah, I remember the covered heads too. My mother always had a supply of hankies in her purse for her three daughters. Seems silly now, doesn’t it?

When I was little, I always worried about “bad thoughts.”

How did we all survive that intense indoctrination?

Things have changed. Side story for you –

The head of Catholic Charities for the midwest invited me for lunch. I had a TV show and he wanted me to run some promos for him.

I told him right away, “Father, you should know I am not an observant Catholic anymore.”

He answered –

“I don’t care about that. I just need you to help me.”

Is that a big change or not?

I did.

Not one cent donated to CC goes to any Archdiocese to pay off the sex offenders. 99 cents outof every dollar goes to the poor. And not just to Catholics.


Being the Change I Wish to See
August 17, 2010 at 12:05 am

I’m going to look at The Secret from a much bigger problem than any one person, or even big groups can solve. South Louisiana has been through hell these past 5 years. August 29, 2010 will be the 5th anniversary of Katrina.

First, Hurricane Katrina hit, 2nd Hurricane Rita, 3rd, Hurricane Gustav, 4th Hurricane Ike, and 5th, the BP Oil leak happened, destroying our wetlands, fish, sea life and birds, and destroying our tourist businesses.

Just hoping and praying for the levees to be repaired and flood protection to be improved and our power grids to be restored and hardened, and for the oil not to reach the wetlands won’t solve anything. We all pray and hope, but not out of an unrealistic faith that we don’t have to do anything else. We’re often not even sure of what we need to do to solve all these serious problems, but we know we have to do something and fast.

If you want to keep the oil out of the wetlands, you gotta get your boat out with boom and a skimmer and actively collect oil that will come in with the tide if you don’t.

We keep riding BP because the best way to finish the clean up is to kill that well (it’s about to be killed from the bottom this week or next; it’s been top-killed with a static procedure and has stopped leaking, but the Coast Guard won’t consider it sealed until the bottom kill procedure is complete).

Then we’ll have all the toxic dispersants and oil plumes down below the surface of the water to deal with, and we don’t know how long it will be before the bacteria and algae eat it all, or the oysters bioaccumulate it. When that happens, we don’t know if it will create severe dead zones that will take a very long time to recover from and support life again. We don’t have actions on this problem to take that we have evidence will actually work. We just have to monitor the Gulf for chemicals, plumes, and oxygen levels; and help move sea life that are trapped in low-oxygen areas.

Then we have to hold BP’s feet to the fire to make sure the fisherman and other small businesses and all the industries that depend on the Gulf for their livelihoods are fully compensated for their losses sooner rather than later.

We have hope because we have faith in our own abilities to solve problems and take the proper actions.

We have hope because we have faith that the bayous can recover, even though they’ve been hit very hard over and over again. They are resilient.

We have hope because we are working long and hard to restore our wetlands and bring back the biodiversity, habitats, seafood, and hurricane protection we’ve lost because of decades of bad decisions.

Rebuilding New Orleans is still on-going. It’s taken thousands of people from all over the world to come here and work, donate supplies and materials, and donate their time to rebuild such a unique city. It still has a long way to go, but it is coming back. Our hard work is showing and we’re glad we worked so hard.

In Baton Rouge, it took every able-bodied person in our neighborhood after Gustav to clear our streets enough for cars to get through so we could get out and get ice, water, and MREs.

It took thousands of local and distant electrical workers to restore our power after all these storms, and that took several days at the soonest to several weeks at the latest.

It took several months for many people to finally get contractors to rebuild their roofs and other damage. Some took over a year. Some had to tear everything down and rebuild from the foundation up.

We had the luxury of visualizing and hoping for what we wanted as we dropped into bed each night exhausted, thanking God we were able to work and get so much done. Then we got up again the next day and continued until we were done. Then we returned to regular work.

We often spent spare time helping those who needed more done than they had time or money for because they had to go back to their jobs, too. Our insurance doesn’t kick in here after a named storm until we’ve spent 5% of our home’s value out-of-pocket, so having the money isn’t an easy thing for most of us.

Visualizing is important for planning what your actions will be. If you don’t know where you’re going you won’t get there. Positive thinking is important to keep your spirits up in such difficult times. Prayer does help with inner strength and keeping a thankful attitude rather than a needy attitude. But if all you do is sit there and visualize and hope and pray, your roof won’t get fixed, you won’t eat, and your house will fall down around you soon because it will rain in and destroy it.

I don’t think we attract needed ideas either. We have something called a reticular activating system that makes us wake up and pay attention to the things that will help us with what we need to accomplish. We start to pay attention to things we ignored before because we didn’t need them. But when we start needing something, we start being alert and looking around everywhere for any sign or clue of what we need.

When we’re hungry we look in the cupboard or the refrigerator for something to eat or cook. We don’t visualize food appearing out of nowhere. When we need money because they are coming to turn the gas off if we don’t pay, we perk up and pay attention to money-making opportunities and jobs and get money coming in as soon as possible.

I just don’t buy the law of attraction and The Secret because without action, nothing happens.
.-= Being the Change I Wish to See´s last blog ..It’s not a mosque and it’s not that close to ground zero =-.


August 17, 2010 at 12:52 pm

Oh, Sherri –

Thank you for sharing this long comment with us. I was around and your friend when you were going through this terrible time.

I remember how brave your were.

This is where I really part company with the Law of Attraction, better known now as The Secret.

If for no other reason.

They would say that Louisiana somehow attracted all those disasters. They don’t exactly say how. Or why.

I believe that your area is now going to get the help they need.

The oil soaked Penguins did it. It was the last straw. It finally struck the nerve people needed to support you.

I always so appreciate your generous support of my blog.

Thank you, my dear friend.


Being the Change I Wish to See
August 18, 2010 at 12:10 am

Thanks, Corinne,

I didn’t feel very brave while I was going through it. We were scared, but we knew we had to act to make things better.

There are more than a few Evangelical preachers of influence who say New Orleans and South Louisiana brought these disasters on ourselves. They say we endured God’s wrath because New Orleans was/is no better than Sodom and Gomorrah, and we deserved everything we got.

I hadn’t been a regular church-goer since college, but after Katrina, I only go into churches to deliver pizzas, attend weddings and funerals. If science is the new religion, then it’s my religion.

I see that we are getting a lot more of what we need to completely recover from all the disasters we’ve faced. The Army Corp of Engineers has been working on new flood protection systems and the Obama Administration is seeing that we have the best chance possible to recover from the oil disaster.

The pictures of birds trapped in oil that they could barely move in and were clearly dying from moved a lot of people. We saved some of those birds, but not all of them. A lot more probably died than were saved. They will never be counted because they sank to the bottom of the Gulf. We are managing to save barrier island bird habitats and nesting grounds, especially of the brown pelican, our state bird (see stories about Queen Bess Island).

There is finally a long-term study and planning group with money to repair and rebuild our wetlands, but it will take several years to a few decades. It has yet to do much restoration, so I’ll believe it when I see it happening. The engineering is extremely difficult because whatever we do, we have to be sure we aren’t making things worse in other areas of the same wetlands.

Thanks for being a great friend. Without people like you in my life, things would be tougher than I can imagine now.
.-= Being the Change I Wish to See´s last blog ..It’s not a mosque and it’s not that close to ground zero =-.


Chris August 18, 2010 at 5:42 am

If you believe in fate and are prepared to accept what life has in store for you that can be interesting. However sometimes you need to push against closed doors to ascertain if they are really locked.


August 18, 2010 at 9:45 am

Chris – where have you been?

Missed you.

I was thinking the other day – what can I write that will flush Chris out?

As usual, you come up with something important.

Yes, I think it is urgent to make sure that closed door is locked before giving up.


Raymond Chua
August 18, 2010 at 9:04 pm

Believe and visualization without action is nothing.

We can wait for a tree to grow and bear fruits by itself but in the end, we still need to take the action to pluck the fruits and skin it before we can taste it.
.-= Raymond Chua´s last blog ..Meaning of Angry =-.


August 19, 2010 at 1:26 pm

Thanks, Raymond –

As you are a specialist in the Law of Attraction, I was anxiously awaiting a comment.

So happy you approve.



Karen August 19, 2010 at 5:01 am

I’m a fan of The Secret and I find that it works well for me.
I think that The Secret is about mindset which changes your perspective and opens your awareness to opportunities around you. Once you focus strongly on something you are more likely to see opportunities that will help you to achieve it and more likely to want to take action that brings you closer to what you want.
I find The Secret (the book not the movie) is a great inspirational tool that helps to keep me on track and gives me a better outlook on life.
.-= Karen´s last blog ..5 Tips for making a Great Mini-Album =-.


August 19, 2010 at 1:28 pm

Hi Karen –

This is the absolute truth about “The Secret”

You have nailed it.

“I think that The Secret is about mindset which changes your perspective and opens your awareness to opportunities around you. Once you focus strongly on something you are more likely to see opportunities that will help you to achieve it and more likely to want to take action that brings you closer to what you want.”

Action is the most important word here.

So nice to hear from you again.


Monkey August 19, 2010 at 6:10 am

Can’t believe I’m posting this (not like me at all) quote on two sites today, but it seems so applicable to both. This quote sits above my computer, and I think it sums up your post.
“whatever you think you can do, or believe you can do, begin it. For in action there is magic, grace and power.” –Goethe
It’s all about the ACTION baby!
.-= Monkey´s last blog ..Brother- Can You Spare a … Platinum Card =-.


August 19, 2010 at 1:30 pm

Hey, Monkey –

I have those words taped on my computer.

I definitely try to follow them.

And they cannot be repeated often enough.

Thanks for speaking up here. Welcome!


Louise Bove August 19, 2010 at 12:21 pm

Dear Corinne, “If you want something you really have to want it”……in my struggle to play the piano again dispite
having Macular Degeneration. you say you don’t know why anyone would want to play the piano. I was born
wanting to play. When I was 12 my father bought me a second hand, upright piano for $25, and I was in heaven!
I had many lessons, but really had no talent for music. It was the Sonatinas by Clementi that I had comqured, and
could play well….period, the end. Finger exercises really, but when you played them well people were so impressed!
I carted that piano from Flatbush, to Ridgewood, and all the way to Connecticut. After my parents died I bought a
Spinet and after hundreds of hours of practice I played Debussey”s Clair de Lune pretty well! Everyone who heard
me play thought I was an accomplished pianist. No matter. I still had the dream. It’s always there in my heart.
When I was finally able to have my piano moved to my apartment, I came to a smashing halt! I couldn’t read the
music! The lines, as they do with macular degeneration, were like wiggly worms, and one can’t see where the noyes
are, as they jump here and there on the sheet music. I was in a state of shock! It had never occurred to me that I
wouldn’t be able to read the music. But surely, I thought…..surely there must be a way. Oh I won’t give it up so
easily. If you really want something, you have to really, really want it. Isn’t that right? There HAS to be a way.
Maybe I will invent something and get rich!! “If you really want something” applies to anything, and sometimes
even the tiniest thing is not so easy to have without a huge effort! Louise


August 19, 2010 at 1:38 pm

Dearest Louise –

I did a little research for you on this. Talked to a customer service person who was so nice at a huge website dealing with sheet music.

She had two suggestions:

One is that they sell magnifying sheets of paper at Office Depot. You might try that.

The other thing she suggested which may not work is to contact the manager at Kinko’s and ask if they will enlarge your sheet music.

Technically, they worry about copyright infringement but if you are copying classical music they MIGHT do it. It probably is in the public domain.

Play the pity card (doesn’t hurt to add the “old” card)

Let me know if any of this works.

Anybody reading this have any other suggestions?

Good luck, my dear friend.

I agree there has to be a WAY.


Louise Bove August 19, 2010 at 6:02 pm

Dear Corinne and Evan, Bless both your hearts…..I have been here and there on the internet and also
have a thick catalog of low vision aids, some simple some very complicated and expensive. I’ve spent
a lot of money on things that simply don’t work for me. I feel like a true inventor….thinking, thinking,
pacing the floor etc.etc. Somehow I have to think of a way to have my page-magnifier not simply lay
on the music….that does nothing, but to have the magnifier stand in space, 1″ from the sheet of music.
Imagine the music holder on a piano. You spread your music on it. What I need is some magical spell
that will lift the maginfier one inch away from the sheet music….perfect!!!! So far……no can do. But I
will not let go of it. If I do I’ll lose it. Think Louise! Think! Uh Oh…I smell smoke! Love to both, Louise


Carlon August 22, 2010 at 8:35 pm

Great post.
As you know I am no fan of “The Secret” and consider it the worst thing to ever happen to personal development. I like what one of the commenters said: “I think that The Secret is about mindset which changes your perspective and opens your awareness to opportunities around you.”

If that is what The Secret was about, I’d be all for it. But it doesn’t say that. And a lot of people who like The Secret tone it down to make it more palatable–hence all those coaches and Law of Attraction people trying to teach the “real Secret”.

My two cents: just having the desire to do something doesn’t make it so unless you have the ability to take action and do it.

I wrote this about The Secret some time back:
.-= Carlon´s last blog ..Twitter Weekly Roundup for 2010-08-21 =-.


August 23, 2010 at 7:45 am

Thanks for dropping by, Carlton –

Don’t know how I missed your post on teens and the Secret! Read every article. I am a Poop groupie.

As you said –

“My two cents: just having the desire to do something doesn’t make it so unless you have the ability to take action and do it.”

That is worth more than two cents. It could mean your life.


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