THE BIG IDEA – When to bail out

by Corinne on November 23, 2007

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You’ve done your homework.  You have read every self-help and success book on the planet.  Everything from Donald Trump, Jack Welch, Lee Iacocca to The Power of Intention.  Every article in Entrepreneur Magazine – every blog -

You are ready with your million dollar idea.

They have taught you how to proceed.  Roughly, it goes like this:

1.  Find your passion

2.  Meditate on it daily

3.  Set your goal

4.  Take action

5.  Don’t let anyone discourage you

6.  Get help where you need it

7.  Be prepared to work hard

8.  Be persistent

9.  Persevere no matter what

10.  Never, never give up

You have done all of the above and have spent a huge amount of time, energy and money on your project.  It is not going anywhere. It is time to have the courage to move on.

So –

11.  Give up

WAITAMINUTE!  WHAT WAS THAT?  AM I READING THIS RIGHT?

GIVE UP?????

It could have been a great idea whose time has not come – or an idea that just wouldn’t fly if you put it on a helicopter.

It is called TRYING TO RACE A THREE LEGGED HORSE.

This does not mean you give up on YOU.  It means it is time to try something else.

Now label yourself as an entrepreneur in training.

Training is the operable word here.  You did not come out of this effort with no benefit.  You have achieved a Ph.D. with the operation you just abandoned.  You learned a lot from the effort.  You have become a successful person in business.  Those are transferrable skills you can use as you develop a new dream.

I owned and operated a very successful, small travel agency for twenty years.  Things were going well.  Our “partners,” the airlines, treated us like Kings and Queens.  I never flew coach the whole time.  Even my kids, who worked part time in the agency, were always upgraded to First Class when they flew anywhere.  They knew the rules.  Wear a suit.  Ask politely if there was “any room up front.”  It always worked.

Things started to change.  Not only were we not upgraded to First Class, travel agents were suddenly stand by passengers.  I remember being bumped off at least four flights on the way from Miami to Chicago.  Took me 12 hours to get home.

Then the airlines started cutting our commissions.  They made deals with our big commercial travelers.  Guaranteed special fares for them.  They denied this but our accounts told us.  They said they loved us but they could not afford to pass up the prices they were offered.

I was racing a “three legged horse.”  This City Hall was too big to buck.  You can’t fight a whole group of major airline carriers who are after your business.

Other agencies hung in there.  I didn’t.  I sold my agency.  I sold it to people who just wanted to have the “fun” of owning a travel agency.  I needed to make money.  They didn’t.  I was probably one of the last agencies that actually sold.  If you notice, there are few neighborhood agencies anymore.  Most just closed.

But, do you know what terrific training it is to run a travel agency?  If you can do it successfully you can run General Motors.  It is all pieces that you put together to make a trip. Air, hotels, transfers, sightseeing, special requests.  And sales.  Public relations.  Copywriting.  Negotiation.  Human resources.  Accounting.

So, what you have attempted has left you with similar abilities that you did not have before.  You can use those talents anywhere no matter what you decide to dream up next.

Knowing when to give up and start something new is not easy.  It is like giving up your new baby but you must have confidence in the fact that your inner guidance will lead you to the next project.  And it will not be so hard for you with all your experience.

As Anne Morrow Lindbergh said, “It takes as much courage to have tried and failed as it does to have tried and succeeded.”

There is a million dollar idea out there. Keep looking for it.  Don’t give up the intention.  Just the idea you left behind.

Do not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

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Stephen Hopson November 23, 2007 at 11:24 am

Corrine:

This is an excellent, excellent article! You’ve given me and countless other people food for thought. So many of us in the personal development arena have a hard time giving up because we’re ingrained with the thought that it’s wimpy to do so.

But one thing you pointed out is that what’s the use of banging your head against the wall if things aren’t moving along the way it should be? Why should we fight against the trend when it’s easier to look elsewhere and pick up steam easily and effortlessly?

I liked this article so much that I not only reviewed it but also Stumbled it! :)

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Corinne November 23, 2007 at 11:47 am

Stephen -

THANK YOU! You have put my fears to rest. With all this positive talk everywhere I was a little afraid to approach the opposite idea of giving up and trying something else!

I so appreciate your always constant support!

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Stephen Hopson November 23, 2007 at 11:54 am

Corinne:

There I spelled your name correctly, didn’t I? :)

Well, let me say that bloggers who are not afraid of writing to their heart’s content, will get far. It’s actually a good idea to sometimes buck the trend and go in the opposite direction. You’ll probably get a couple new subscribers as a way of rewarding you for your risk-taking muscles.

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Scott November 23, 2007 at 12:02 pm

Came here via Stumbleupon. Great article and a refreshing change from all the other self-help blogs.

Reading this article, I can’t get The Gambler by Kenny Rogers out of my head. “Know when to walk away, know when to run…” ;-)

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Corinne November 23, 2007 at 12:48 pm

Thanks, Scott!

I had forgotten that song. Perfect!

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Michelle Vandepas November 23, 2007 at 2:17 pm

Corinne, are you saying that your experience served you well when you went on TV? I’ve looked at the best ways to apply my experience, not sure I’ve found it yet..

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sunny schlenger November 23, 2007 at 2:52 pm

Corinne — I, too, Stumbled Upon this article and think it’s terrific. When things aren’t running smoothly, and you’ve done everything you can, you have to begin to look at it as a message to move on. There’s probably some other activity out there just waiting for your input!

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Corinne November 23, 2007 at 3:21 pm

Dear Michelle -

Putting a trip together is the same process as producing a TV show.

It is all little pieces you put together.

In TV, you need a guest, a studio, lights, set, recording equpment, a director a sound person, camera people and some backgound on the topic.

Think about your business – whatever it is. It is pieces.

Some of these things you learned when you worked at McDonald’s in high school.

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Corinne November 23, 2007 at 3:26 pm

Dear Sunny -

That is a great favor to “Stumble” my article! Thank you.

Did you read Scott’s message? Kenny Rogers song. “To know when to walk away. Know when to run!” That’s it.

Hard to learn when we have a big investment in what we have been doing that is not working.

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Florence November 23, 2007 at 6:11 pm

Or, and this has happened to me … it’s like a very long marriage and you continuously fall in and out of love with your business. But of course, takes work. My 20 year old business is an “entity” and has a spirit of its own that I believe matches mine. It seems to be an outer reflection of me and my spirit at any given time and some times, ours spirits just need a rest and perhaps a little time at a spa – so to speak. Just that break to re-energize outselves and then on to the next chapter.

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Corinne November 23, 2007 at 7:16 pm

Dear Florence -

If you are still at it and it giving you support, this idea is not DEAD!

Never bury anything that is still alive! It has still things to teach you.

I am not talking here about a business that has its ups and down. After 20 years there has to have been some more ups than downs.

My advice would be to stay with this. Keep building it brick by brick and when you are ready – sell it if you are tired of it. Don’t abandon it.

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Florence November 24, 2007 at 9:19 pm

In re-reading this Corinne, same advice could apply to a man!!!

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Corinne November 25, 2007 at 10:33 am

Dear Florence -

Of course it applies to men.

But, will they listen?

We are still trying to get them to ask directions when we are hopelessly lost on a car trip!

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SimoneM November 26, 2007 at 8:31 pm

Hi Corinne,
Another great article. I’ve just finished reading Seth Godin’s “The Dip” and I’m still wobbly at the knees about his advice on knowing when to stick and knowing when to quit… Your approach on the topic left me feeling invigorated. Cheers!
Simone.

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Tara November 26, 2007 at 9:50 pm

I think this is a very important part of personal growth and I’m glad someone is admitting it.

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Sol Lederman November 26, 2007 at 11:12 pm

Nice post.

One of the things I keep learning over and over again is that things don’t happen for me until it’s take. I can try to “push the river” all I want but if it isn’t time things don’t work out. When it is time, however, things seem effortless.

Thank you for sharing this.

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Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) November 27, 2007 at 1:57 pm

A brilliant article Corinne. I can imagine how it will rekindle hope and enthusiasm in the hearts to those who read it who are in the three legged horse business. I’ve been there myself so i know what you’re saying is true.

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Corinne November 27, 2007 at 2:41 pm

I hope it will, Karen. It is very hard to know when the exact time is that you realize that you are just on the wrong track. You are not the wrong person!

It may even require a period of mourning before you start to look around again.

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Mary November 28, 2007 at 4:30 pm

I couldn’t agree with you more – thanks for validating what I already felt to be true. Isn’t it Einstein who said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expect different results???

I read a book by a woman named Tai Archbold called Faces of Sickness that was an interesting way to approach change – short stories rather than a strictly self help book.

I’ll be visiting you again in the future – loved your article,

Mary

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Rick January 17, 2008 at 4:18 pm

Einstein was right about insanity.

I’ve learned this much: It is not about the “things we have” but the experiences we have lived.

From my 27 year old world traveller son.

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Corinne January 17, 2008 at 7:45 pm

Rick – I firmly believe that we are the sum total of all our experiences – and that the things we will regret when we are old is the things we did not do – not the things we did. This includes our mistakes!

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Corinne January 17, 2008 at 8:01 pm

Dear Mary -

Went over to visit your site. You are a highly spiritual person and have so much to say to all of us who are struggling. Thank you.

I believe that every day of our life is a short story. Hopefully, when we go to sleep at night we can say we have finished one chapter. It would be nice if we could conclude the book – but I will settle for that for now.

Perhaps the book is finished when we transit to a new reality.

To vist Mary’s site, just click on her name above (Mary) and it will bring you right there. You will benefit from her wisdom.

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MichelleVan March 7, 2008 at 7:12 pm

Corinne, Sometimes you just follow your intuition. Everything feels great, you go for it, and then the energy shifts,… others aren’t on board, the universe doesn’t deliver.. Or does it? Do you get what you need from the process? It isn’t failing, it isn’t bailing, …..Is the letting go of the project part of the release that allow the project to realign in a new way. I don’t have all the answers, but I do know how to follow energy. Sometimes things work out , sometimes they don’t. Stay unattached to outcomes, follow intuitive hits, don’t be afraid. Thanks for your support.

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Marco June 29, 2008 at 11:48 pm

Corrine, a friend sent me a link to your site and I have to say it’s a breath of fresh air. You have a great knack for common sense in how we should be living our lives. You’ve earned a spot in my RSS reader. I look forward to reading your wisdom in the future.

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Corinne June 30, 2008 at 4:18 am

Marco – How wonderful!

I will look forward to getting to know you better.

Loved your site! Unique. See you there tool

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Jim O'Connor August 1, 2008 at 5:12 pm

This is a great article. Yes, you do need to know when to stop. I like to follow the formula of know your results, take massive action, measure your progress, and modify your course, if needed.

Jim – Wellness Word Fitness Newsletter

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Corinne August 2, 2008 at 12:15 pm

Hi Jim -

Modifying or abandoning the course is sometimes necessary. Sometimes we get stubborn and don’t know when to give up!

Thanks for weighing in here!

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Slade Roberson January 29, 2010 at 6:22 am

Corinne,

You’ve communicated something very difficult to say, difficult to hear, yet something that does sometimes need to be said.

And you’ve said it well.

Great post!
Slade Roberson´s last blog ..Stranger Angels – Part 1

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