Comments on: THE ACCIDENTAL WIDOWS FORUM – a miracle

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 22:22:05 +0000

I’m having trouble posting…again….This is not where I need to be with Audrey, Suzanne, Mary, and Beth…. What do I do??????

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 08:43:54 +0000

Looking for the comments post Dec. 25th….Where do I find them??????

By: Widows forum | Luxonbiz

Widows forum | Luxonbiz — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 23:02:24 +0000

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By: Corinne

Corinne — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 16:59:35 +0000

Dear Karin -

Please go directly to the widows forum

http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/when-your-husband-has-died-a-survival-guide/

You need their support that is ongoing. Those women are so wonderful and you can say anything you want because you are anonymous.

We all understand.

By: Karin Melvin

Karin Melvin — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 16:10:45 +0000

Thank you for this article it has let me realize I am not insane. My husband died suddenly on Memorial day at age 40 of a anuresyum in his stomach that ruptured. I knew when I lifted him off the couch to do CPR and he vomited blood into my mouth that he was gone. I stopped used my shirt to wipe out his mouth. Closed his eyes and kissed him goodbye. Then I had hope and started CPR again of course he did not make it.
Some days I am so lost I do not even know what I am doing I try to be there for our 3 young kids and it is hard when i am still numb and shockey.
We had over 1000 people at the wake and people were standing outside the church fro his funereal I am sure he had a big grin looking down or he was upset to not be there with the kids and I .
He was a church volunter, soccer coach and he helped with lots of needs in this small town
Today has been bad not sure why I hurt my back lifting him off the couch and the surgeon called with the date to fix it maybe that is it who knows. Then to top it off I get a nice card from a bunch of people have a benefit next month for the kids education fund. I still shut myself out from crowds. Funny I was very social before this now I just want to be alone.
People do not get it they even try to get me to date others. I am not ready for the that. have they not noticed I still wear my wedding rings. i am not even sure what I am supposed to do with them.
After I have spilled my guts I can Thank you You gave me Hope something I did not have before reading your article.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:35:36 +0000

Dear Joan -

So sorry. It has been such a short time. Mostly, you are probably in shock now.

A New Vision is an admirable goal and it will come in time.

In the meantime, be as kind to yourself as you can and don’t push yourself.

Please go back to the post and click on

WHEN YOUR HUSBAND HAS DIED.

This is just an article about that forum. But that article is the actual group.

For now, you may just want to read the comments. But I suggest you join in the conversation. It has seemed to comfort many of us who are widows.

Hope to see you over there.

By: Joan

Joan — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:18:26 +0000

I have just found you and thank you very much for your most helpful
comments. My own amazing and dear husband has died last week
of advanced bone cancer. We discovered this ‘out of the blue’ at the
end of Sept. so in some ways it has been a short trip and in others, an
agonizing journey ending in great personal gutting. The A-bomb has
truly gone off in my life; we met in 1970 and have been married for
32 yrs. I shall, God willing, be 60 at the end of the month so that makes
me involved with my son and husband for 2/3 of my life. It is a deep
and loving knowing and I am at a loss as to how to build a completely
different life. Fortunately, I am the ‘handy one’ in our whole family
so the logistics are not foreign to me, thank God; but it is the matter
of having a New Vision of my life, a deep purpose and way to serve
and make meaning that is the trouble. I don’t know how to start nor
how to ‘get a dream’. Silly, I fear, but true. Again, thanks so very much! Joan

By: Corinne

Corinne — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:13:08 +0000

Dear Jocelyn -

You bring an important view to those who have lost a husband.

They all have wonderful memories, you are right.

So critical to remember that.

All I can say to you is that I wish you beautiful memories for the rest of your life.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:10:21 +0000

Dear Patricia -

Give your “dear, sweet, sometimes irritating husband” who is still very much alive a big hug for all of us on this forum.

We all wish we still had some to irritate us – and to irritate back!

Thanks so much for your support here, Patricia. You add so much to the conversation.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:06:49 +0000

Hi Michelle -

Without you, this blog would be a technical problem for me. So in helping me you are also touching people.

Not to mention the wonderful work you are doing on your own blog, Divine Purpose Unleashed in helping your subscribers to find their life purpose.