Comments on: LIFE COACH – A case study

By: Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind)

Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 00:16:50 +0000

As humans we seem to have an instinctive desire to pursue the
‘lost cause’. Ultimately the only person we can change is ourselves and change in anyone else has to come from them. Once you get the hang of that (and I find it can be very hard to hold on to, as it keeps slipping away if you don’t watch out) then I think you can really move forward.

Another great example Corrine

By: Corinne

Corinne — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 18:59:21 +0000

Well, Sandi – I guess you and Grace are on the same page.

All I can say is thank God for whoever invented caller ID.

It helps weed out the gossips and big talkers. And technology being what it is, you can always claim that your voice mail for some unexplained reason – has not been working.

Who taught us that we have to talk to these people at all? Why do we feel obligated?

Most of us are still trying to get out of the trap of “people-pleasing!”

By: Sandi

Sandi — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 14:16:51 +0000

“some people who spread gossip are not as benign”.

I fully believe that ANYONE who spreads gossip is not benign. I have one sister-in-law who is a compulsive talker. She’ll talk about her kids, Oprah, what she bought at Target, etc. I love her, although I often have to make up reasons to get off the phone with her or I will be on for hours.

I have another sister-in-law who is a gossip. She’s mean and malicious. Period. She hides behind going to church and praying, but she’s an awful person. When my husband was alive and well I wouldn’t even answer the phone if it was her. I didn’t want to hear her latest “news”.

By: Grace

Grace — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 12:41:46 +0000

Corinne, Everyone is afraid of that word … I was too. But I believe Peck is right in describing evil as militant ignorance or evil as anti-love. You may have this mixed up with evil being associated with the word “satanic”. I think that’s why these people get away with their crap – everyone is afraid to call it like it is and make … no mistake … they absolutely know what they are doing — that’s what really blew me away when I figured it out. THEY DO IT ON PURPOSE. and if that ain’t evil, I don’t know what it. As the Irish who are masters at this, say “Just lie in the weeds and wait”. That’s evil, Lady. Premeditated murder of the soul.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 16:10:11 +0000

Dear Raymond

Love this part of your comment -

It’s called the Law of Love. Do not change a person by irritating them. Love the way they are. If you break the law, it will break you.

It does break you – your heart and your health!

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 16:04:00 +0000

Dear Robert -

GO BACK! Your Life Coach has more questions for you!

By: Raymond Chua

Raymond Chua — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:44:49 +0000

A very good advice, Corrine. It's called the Law of Love. Do not change a person by irritating them. Love the way they are. If you break the law, it will break you. That's the law of cause of effect. Raymond Chuas last blog post..Are You Grateful?

By: Robert A. Henru

Robert A. Henru — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:43:12 +0000

LOL, it's so true, tour leader =) Sometimes we all have known the answer, but we need somebody to dig down for us! That's the skill of questioning that life coaches have learned a lot! I went for once before, but I didn't continue. I found that she questioned a lot and I got a lot more understanding about my life from her. Robert Robert A. Henrus last blog post..How failures can make you smile

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:04:58 +0000

PS to Grace -

I wish I had had the nerve to say to her – “I never liked you!”

I didn’t.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:02:35 +0000

Dear Grace -

I remember that book. It scared me to death. Were there really evil people out there?

I think my neighbor certainly had ill intentions in spreading gossip – but evil? I have to think about that.

She may be just a nosy person with no life of her own who fooled herself that in some way she was helping.

Actually, my “priest” boarder was pretty cute. That probably added to the intrigue.

But I had known him for years and he was more like a brother to me. Not to mention he was devestated that his only sister was dying.

Yeah, we all have to learn to keep our mouths shut!