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Thanks for your kind words. You’re right, we always think the world revolves around us and will come to an end if we don’t do everything, but life has a way of working itself out, even when we don’t always have the time to say yes =)

Michelle, I like the “good cop bad cop” idea of using your daughter as an excuse .

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BTW. I say NO as I’m already booked,or I use my daughter as an excuse to say NO!… Also, I say no all the time as I need a lot of down time..

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My problem, along the way, is always saying YES!

I am more careful now. And I have discovered that if I say NO, the world does not stop and shame me.

The people just move on!

Loved your post about the Ipod! What persistance!

And thanks for the compliment about my poem and welcome as a new subscriber!

I think it’s selfish only if we ALWAYS say no – and never do anything to help others. I think the point you make though, is some people have a problem of always saying yes, and need to learn to say no. I agree with that =)

Also, Stephen, one thing I’ve also noticed is there are times where I think someone will take a rejection personally and/or be deflated, so we try to soften the blow – when really I was just being overly sensitive to their needs, and it wasn’t such a big deal after all to say no to them.

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I am quite surprised at the feedback I have been getting on this article.

I thought I would be “flamed” by lots of people who say I am selfish and not community minded.

Quite the opposite – even YOU – who is one of the most giving and big hearted people I know.

I like your point that you have to listen to your gut! If it is really right for us, we make room for it somehow!

I guess I had to write this article after all!

Yes, you are more diplomatic than I am.

I say, GET OFF THE LIST!

Believe me if you say call me another time, you WILL get a call from the person who called you – or another on a project that perhaps is not quite as challenging but still over your limit!

They have a list.

When a volunteer job you have time to do arrives – it will find you or you will find it!

Only you can decide when to say YES! We all have been involved in major projects along the way. And have loved them!

I did five years as a volunteer in a self esteem project for prostitutes. It was one of the most fulfilling times of my life.

You can read about it here.

http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/unhooked-and-free-the-prostitutes/

Saying NO. Yes, I know this is a powerful thing to do for yourself. I’ve gotten a lot better at it. For instance, when the chairman of my church’s foundation resigned, I was automatically elevated to the chairman’s position since I was already vice chair. I knew immediately, deep down in my guts, that I did not want the position becuase it didn’t feel right.

So not long after the ascension, I announced that I would not take it and requested a replacement right away. That felt GOOD.

I was asked to contribute to a person’s blog on an ongoing basis. This was someone I actually met over the summer at a blogging conference. Whe he asked, I knew immediately I didn’t want to be a contributor. Again my guts were talking to me. To soften the blow I told him I’d look into it.

After a week, I talked to him on the phone and was very honest and upfront saying I did not feel this was a good fit. I was concerned about “hurting his feelings.” But went with it and that was that. To my surprise, he handled it just fine and it was over.

What we need to realize is that people can handle it if you say no to them. Give them more respect and honor. Their spirits are stronger than you imagine them to be. We do ourselves and them a dis-service if we don’t do what’s right for ourselves by saying “Yes” when we know deep down we should say “No.”

One more example and that’ll be it. Someone wrote to me asking if he could be interviewed on my blog. I told him no, not because he wasn’t worthy but becuase he didn’t have a blog. He was a life coach and I knew he wanted to promote his life coaching business. Nothing wrong with wanting to do that but I felt this was an attemp;t to use me as an advertiser for free and that somehow didn’t sit right with me. I knew if I had let him be interviewed, I would have felt “run over” and that would have been my fault – not his. So I was glad I said, NO.

Thanks for letting me share.

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If you hate saying no just say “please call me next time”. Maybe next time you’ll be able to say yes out of “yes I can” rather than “I don’t want to say no”. But for heaven’s sake, quit saying yes when you need to say no!

Sherri

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