Loved this statement -

I was looking inside for what might be considered “shame” feelings and couldn’t find anything.

How lucky you are – maybe you were raised by really loving people who thought you could do no wrong.

Or – maybe you did not wrong!

Whatever, whatever you have, I want some of it.

If this post reminds you to take care of your sweet inner and vulnerable child, I am grateful.

Do not believe the hurtful things that have been said. They are just someone else’s opinion!

It is interesting that we believe the bad stuff – but if we get a compliment – we brush it away.

It is nice to have a professional come our way and give an opinion.

Especially, an obviously sensitive and caring person like you.

Thanks for visiting. Please come back.

As I drove home, I kept looking but there was just nothing there. I concurred that I was free of any resentment or blame towards another person. Ha!

As I drove up to my house, I wondered who’s car was in the drive way. When I walked in and saw who was there, I had to burst out laughing. It was an old friend of my husbands who had caused us to lose so much money as our attorney, that I had even kept a copy of the scathing letter I had sent to him years before.

It was as if Spirit were gently telling me that the ego will always hide the elements of growth that I try to access and that it is my choice to believe it or to look deeper.

I was able to hug him and forgive him completely. I knew I had forgiven him when I saw him years later and my immediate response was to hug him again and actually want to hug him.

Thanks so much for this article. I will keep looking and keep being open to see the truth about myself and therefore the truth about us all.

Sharon Beck
.-= Sharon Beck´s last blog ..THIS BLOG HAS MOVED!!!!! =-.

I’ve certianly met my share of rude people along the way. I wonder why I feel shame when someone is rude to me. I know it’s the guilty child in me, blaming myself for things that went wrong in my family as I child…and even now.

I plan on practicing to recognize this hurt child in me and to give her the love and understanding she well derserves.

THANKS!
Sondra

Thanks for sharing your experience and the advice of Moses and Bradshaw.

For me, acknowledging the feeling and realizing the source come first. Then I can reassure my inner child that I am in charge and will ensure her safety and happiness.

Dealing with the sharks is something we must master if we are to send the recurring pain scurrying back to its hiding place.
.-= Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D.´s last blog ..Comic Books are Not Child’s Play =-.

When we stop trying to accept and forgive, I think that is when some healing is possible.

But never entirely.

Sometimes, I am positive I have got it licked and then a stupid moment like I described in this article happens and I realize the shame is still there.

That person meant nothing to me. But it still affected me.

Identifying it right away helps – once I realized what was at the bottom of it.

The feeling does not last so long.

I am resigned that it is the challenge of my life.

I love his story too. Ken Moses is a well known grief counselor and has conducted seminars for professionals dealing with their clients all over the world.

In his private practice, he mainly accepts only clients dealing with grief issues.

He keeps threatening to write a book. He should.

I just read your happiness article and I love all the things you love!