Comments on: ARGUMENT FOR ONE - How to win http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/ The house, portfolio, Mercedes and the 2.5 kids have been attained – and the question being asked now is, "IS THAT ALL THERE IS?" Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:33:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: cat http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-821 cat Wed, 28 Nov 2007 03:51:48 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-821 Nice one! I live in my head a great deal. So when I get angry, it does keep me up nights. Writing it out, then burning or flushing the letter is the best ever advice. Thanks! Nice one! I live in my head a great deal. So when I get angry, it does keep me up nights. Writing it out, then burning or flushing the letter is the best ever advice. Thanks!

]]> By: Travel Betty http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-649 Travel Betty Thu, 08 Nov 2007 01:37:30 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-649 I would say most of my confrontational conversations go on in my head. I have that whole People Pleaser disease. But luckily, I've been working on it and taking the "bold" steps to speak up for myself on occasion instead of staying up far too late talking to the mirror. Thanks for another insightful article, Corrine! Jocelyn, thank you for sharing the Ghandi quote. That's perfect! I would say most of my confrontational conversations go on in my head. I have that whole People Pleaser disease. But luckily, I’ve been working on it and taking the “bold” steps to speak up for myself on occasion instead of staying up far too late talking to the mirror. Thanks for another insightful article, Corrine!

Jocelyn, thank you for sharing the Ghandi quote. That’s perfect!

]]> By: Susan from Pennsylvania http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-643 Susan from Pennsylvania Tue, 06 Nov 2007 15:23:30 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-643 I bet there is not ONE person out there who is not re-living a similar situation. You know, even if they are dead, and maybe because they are dead -- you can really write the letter. and then burn it - those pagans really knew their stuff - the catholics copied it.... burning it and then returning it to the love of the universe. I have even floated mine down a rushing mountain stream in the state where I was born. Cleansing and cathartic. and if done right - the pain does not return. I bet there is not ONE person out there who is not re-living a similar situation. You know, even if they are dead, and maybe because they are dead — you can really write the letter.
and then burn it - those pagans really knew their stuff - the catholics copied it…. burning it and then returning it to the love of the universe. I have even floated mine down a rushing mountain stream in the state where I was born.
Cleansing and cathartic. and if done right - the pain does not return.

]]> By: Corinne http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-635 Corinne Mon, 05 Nov 2007 17:32:17 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-635 Dear DJinHouston - Sometimes, the email is to be sent. But not until it has simmered in your mind for a few days. At that point, you will take out all the accusations and just state the way you feel. At that point, you may even be ready for a face to face nice talk. Dear DJinHouston -

Sometimes, the email is to be sent. But not until it has simmered in your mind for a few days.

At that point, you will take out all the accusations and just state the way you feel.

At that point, you may even be ready for a face to face nice talk.

]]> By: Corinne http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-634 Corinne Mon, 05 Nov 2007 17:20:58 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-634 Hi Simone - Thanks for dropping in to see me in Chicago all the way from Perth, Australia. It is a beautiful city. I have been there. Love the visual of your all of you tossing yourselves into a cold ocean. Brrrr. You have a great blog! Come back soon! Warmly, Corinne Hi Simone -

Thanks for dropping in to see me in Chicago all the way from Perth, Australia.

It is a beautiful city. I have been there.

Love the visual of your all of you tossing yourselves into a cold ocean. Brrrr.

You have a great blog!

Come back soon!

Warmly,

Corinne

]]> By: SimoneM http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-633 SimoneM Mon, 05 Nov 2007 16:56:27 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-633 Hi Corinne, I did this exact thing at a Women's Retreat earlier in the year - think a bunch of women who had never met singing in the forest and scaring all of the birds out of the trees - only we had a ceremonial burining of our letters on the beach. It was magic. All the angst melted away and even though many of us were still hurting, we all tossed ourselves into the cold ocean anyway! Great way to mark the occasion and start the cleansing process. Thanks for the reminder :) S. Hi Corinne,
I did this exact thing at a Women’s Retreat earlier in the year - think a bunch of women who had never met singing in the forest and scaring all of the birds out of the trees - only we had a ceremonial burining of our letters on the beach. It was magic. All the angst melted away and even though many of us were still hurting, we all tossed ourselves into the cold ocean anyway! Great way to mark the occasion and start the cleansing process.
Thanks for the reminder :)
S.

]]> By: DJinHouston http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-632 DJinHouston Mon, 05 Nov 2007 15:40:35 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-632 Wow, this is a good article... I've been there before and instead of not sending the letter, or this case, an email, I actually sent it and hurt a goood, good friend in the process. I thought that by letting her know what I felt, about a pain that was caused by one of her actions against me, she would understand my pain, but it only made her feel worse about a the situation and our friendship grew apart since then. Wow, this is a good article…

I’ve been there before and instead of not sending the letter, or this case, an email, I actually sent it and hurt a goood, good friend in the process. I thought that by letting her know what I felt, about a pain that was caused by one of her actions against me, she would understand my pain, but it only made her feel worse about a the situation and our friendship grew apart since then.

]]> By: Jocelyn Sandler http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-627 Jocelyn Sandler Mon, 05 Nov 2007 02:17:06 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-627 Sondra, You arelucky you even have a sister -- mine disappeared in 1978 and we only heard from her once. Just write from your heart and soul... never mind your head or your "pride". Love is the answer. Sondra, You arelucky you even have a sister — mine disappeared in 1978 and we only heard from her once. Just write from your heart and soul… never mind your head or your “pride”.
Love is the answer.

]]> By: Corinne http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-626 Corinne Mon, 05 Nov 2007 01:55:28 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-626 Sondra my dear, You wrote the first letter. I am sure it was sent at a time of great stress in the family. Perhaps you can consider writing another. Not necessarily saying that you are sorry - but that you are sorry it happened. If either one of you - your sister or you - dies - the one who is left will be crying their eyes out at the funeral. This ia a waste of your life and hers. Think about it. Who will take the first step? Will it be you? Love, Corinne Sondra my dear,

You wrote the first letter. I am sure it was sent at a time of great stress in the family.

Perhaps you can consider writing another. Not necessarily saying that you are sorry - but that you are sorry it happened.

If either one of you - your sister or you - dies - the one who is left will be crying their eyes out at the funeral.

This ia a waste of your life and hers.

Think about it. Who will take the first step?

Will it be you?

Love,

Corinne

]]> By: Sondra http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-623 Sondra Sun, 04 Nov 2007 17:53:15 +0000 http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/argument-for-one/#comment-623 Dear Corinne, I wish I had known that"don't mail it part" when I wrote that nasty letter to my sister. The result was disasterous. I realize now that some things are better not shared. No one is going to own up to their mistakes...it's always "the other person's fault." Anger is never the way to approach hurt.I needed to be reminded at that moment when ACIM said "see that person in the light doing the best thing they could do at the time." (not a perfect quote). Sending Love, Sondra Dear Corinne,
I wish I had known that”don’t mail it part” when I wrote that nasty letter to my sister. The result was disasterous. I realize now that some things are better not shared. No one is going to own up to their mistakes…it’s always “the other person’s fault.” Anger is never the way to approach hurt.I needed to be reminded at that moment when ACIM said “see that person in the light doing the best thing they could do at the time.” (not a perfect quote).
Sending Love,
Sondra

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