ARE YOU SEEING SOMEONE YET? - a poem for widows
You only get a minute.
The stone has not been set
before you get the question
“Are you seeing someone yet?”
You have not filed the insurance,
transferred a single bond
before they sing the litany
“Remember, life goes on.”
It’s not the lonely evenings
that strike terror in your breast.
It’s the envelopes that come addressed
to “Ms. You and your guest.”
The delemmas’s not in grieving
or even what to wear
but where you find a body
to escort you to affairs.
They say you’re far too fussy.
There is nothing much out there.
They use as their criteria
if a man can breathe and stare.
I’d run away to Tonga,
Abu Dhabi or Tibet,
but I know that some one there would ask
“Are you seeing someone yet?”
If you find yourself a widow,
start wailing right away.
You only get a minute
before you have to play.
An old boyfriend came to my husband’s viewing–we ended on good terms, I had even fixed him up with a co-worker some years ago. He has worked with my mother for over a decade. It was kind and respectful for him to come. More than one person, however, inquired as to his marital status–like I was going to go out on a date with him after the service?
Sandi - that was a whimsical poem based on FACT! I am glad you told that story to convince people I was not exaggerating! I could not believe the questions I was asked like that.
I’ve been divorced since 1995 - no one asks me — wonder why?
*chuckle* oh the truth.. oh the ailing truth
I do get this question alot and I actually did tense up on the announcement of a close friends wedding .. wondering if I’ll be seated at the kiddies table like in the movies..
*shudders*
*sigh*
yes. life goes on. yes I know I know - but I’m not ready.. so sue me
thanks for sharing this Corrine
Grace - probably no one asks you because you are one of the rare birds in the world who is happy with her own life - and people don’t feel that it is urgent for you to have “someone.”
If you decide you do - YOU WILL! Just like that.
Dear Jemi -
Glad you got a chuckle out of my poem. Mainly, because it is true!
If you are not ready to give up on finding someone, we will not sue!
Let us know.
(Sometimes the kiddy table is the most fun! They will even dance with you!)