Reed Badgley is an early alumnus of my blog. He is an elegant, active, handsome and brilliant retiree. He has commented on almost every article going on three years now.
A special thanks for sticking with me through thick and thin!
I thought I would share some of his wise quotes with you.
Considering his long background as a successful investment banker, volunteer to many charities – and a talented pianist, jazz enthusiast and even an expert magician – I thought you would enjoy them.
STARTING WITH —
How often, if ever, have you walked the “Extra Mile”? If you never have, try it! Walking the “Extra Mile” dissolves relationship conflicts and transforms them into serenity; changes a “mirage of hope” into the reality of success.
What is the “Extra Mile”? Here are two verses that capture the concept:
Love is more than a hug, a kiss and a smile.
Love is walking together that “Extra Mile”.Reaching your goal may take a while.
You’ll get there walking that “Extra Mile”.Each of the above verses addresses a different but important phase of our life:
Love and relationships.
Goals and achievement.
Life is not a “bed of roses”. There are hardships and challenges. Love and marriage bring great joy, but not always. There are disappointments and misunderstandings.
Human relationships bring conflicts and disagreements.
But these are precisely the times when it is important to walk the “Extra Mile.”
The “Extra Mile” challenges us to forgive and to look at the big picture. The “Extra Mile” marks the willingness to forget self and think of another. The “Extra Mile” measures the understanding and mutual support that is vital during crisis.
This does not mean sacrificing “principle” for “compromise”. It does mean substituting “understanding” for “stubbornness”; taking the time to evaluate another’s point-of-view.
Reaching goals and capturing achievement are not products of instant gratification. They require walking the “Extra Mile”, sometimes to the point of exhaustion.
You work hard, you strive and yet your goal remains distant. You struggle, you persevere, ugh, but success eludes your grasp. That’s when you bear down and walk the “Extra Mile.”
Wasn’t it Thomas Edison who said, “Genius is ninety percent perspiration, ten percent inspiration”?
And how about Leo Burnett who during the depression founded what turned out to be one of the world’s greatest advertising agencies. His friends said he would wind up selling apples on the street.
That is why reception rooms of the Leo Burnett Company throughout the world have a bowl of apples in plain view.
George Bernard Shaw did not get published until he was in his forties.
Auntie Mame, a long running Broadway show, got turned down repeatedly, but the author found a producer willing to take a chance.
The next time things get tough; have the courage to walk the “Extra Mile”.
AND HIS THOUGHTS ON LIFE -
What is the meaning of our lives and why are we here? I believe the answer to this universal riddle is contained in the following words by John Dunne:
“No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main…any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls: It tolls for thee!”
These words resonate profoundly with me, especially, “any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind….”
That one insight answers the question for me…why are we here; what is the meaning of life? Because any man’s death diminishes me.
I am here to try to make a meaningful difference for those I meet before it is too late. “The bell tolls” reminding me time is moving on so “get on with it!!
Indeed, when I sense I may have made a meaningful difference in another life, my life is embellished and my heart rings out in song!!
HIS ADVICE TO YOUNG PEOPLE AND NEW ENTREPRENEURS -
1) Get the finest education you are able to obtain. College is essential.
2) Try to realistically assess your talents and interests – then develop and pursue those talents and interests. Don’t get side tracked!
3) Walk the “extra mile” for yourself AND for others.
4) Try to understand that true happiness comes NOT from what you get, BUT from what you SHARE.
5) Develop your speaking and writing skills. “Words are mightier than the sword”.
6) Develop Self Discipline. Resist temptation. Learn to say “NO!” Listen to your gut. What is it telling you? It is usually right.
7) Forgive yourself if it turns out to be wrong. When you have not lived up to your expectations. There is always “tomorrow”. (But don’t use that as an excuse!)
He says he is honored to be a guest author.
We are so honored to have him and his wisdom available to us.
Have you benefited from the advice of an elder? Tell us about it.
Reed Badgley is a graduate of Dartmouth College and was past chairman of its Book Award Program which recognizes outstanding high-school students throughout the Chicago Metropolitan area. He was a vice president of the brokerage firm, Smith Barney (Now Smith Barney, Morgan Stanley).
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Hi Reed, Thanks so much for sharing your words of wisdom.. I love the extra mile concept – something that I think may be coming back, but seemed to go out of fashion for a generation or two…And to develop your talents and focus on those. Agree!.. Not so sure about the education being essential though. Yes it will give you a heads up, but not everyone has the opportunity to get a formal education. perhaps we could agree that learning is lifelong?
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Very well written, and I could not agree more. I strive to go the extra mile myself and am always pleased to see that when others do the same. Youngsters would definitely benefit from your advice…they are often too self-absorbed to really focus on what is important to them in the future.
Thanks for your input!
Reed, Thank you for this information and your sage advice. I own a staffing firm and work with a lot of younger people and will be happy to pass this advice on.
Over the years, I have interviewed thousands of these kids – many just out of college – and it just breaks my heart to see just how ill-equipped they are for the real world (a job where they have to do as they are told). Parents and schools just aren’t doing the job and I don’t know what the answer is … but it sure doesn’t help a young person who at the age of 21 or 22 is saddled with student loan debt of $50,000 and many times much more. And is maxed out on a credit card !!!!!!!!!!
And not prepared for much besides sitting in a cube and staring at a
computer screen and eating junk food . The adults fell down on the job and are probably in league with the credit card companies and banks to keep these guys as indentured serfs for the next 50 years.
Can you even imagine graduating from your college years ago with that kid of debt for an UNDERGRAD DEGREE ? And now knowing how to even dress for an interview. And what’s this business of coming in with a cup of coffee? My office – you’re late – you simply don’t get in.
I know a little bit about Smith Barney – and they wouldn’t get in there either!!
You said you wanted to make a difference in the world –well, maybe this blog will do some good.. I’m going to refer my candidates to it.
They need responsible, older advisors in their lives.
Thank you, Reed Badgley.
Michelle & Sasha: I thank you both so very much for your thoughtful commnts.
Michelle: You make a good point about college education being financially out-of-reach for many. That’s why I am pleased that Obama places such emphsis on expanding educaional opportunities for those who have been economicallhy disbarred. I keep my fingers crossed that the cost of reparing a broken health care system will not encroach on Obama’s educational budget. Yes, there are those who have been enormously successful without college. But most offen that achievement has been due to extaordinary talent and virorously “walking the ‘Extra Mile ‘”.
Sasha:
Thank you for your compliment regading my writing. I can only assume that you have been successful in life, becuase you “walk the ‘Extra Mile”. Just hope parents instill that important concept in their children
Thank you, Peg, for your response. You do me honor by sharing my comments with your yonnger staff.
Yes, our society has changed so drastically! We have gone down hill in so many ways. Our manners, our dress, our vocabulary. Far different than in the 40′s and 50′s…even the 60′s Example: On CNBC there was interviewer who was questioning Bill Gates founder of Microsoft. My jaw dropped when the interviewer ask Bill, “Tell me Bill what really p–ses y0u off?” Bil Gates was noticable taken aback and started his reply, Well what does concern me…” “No, no, Bill” interups the interviewr, “What really pis-es you off!?
What to do? I believe our school systems should incorporate in its
studies for seniors a course on maners and a course on how to interview for a job. I can tell you that if a candidate for an opening in my firm came in with a ring through his nose. a tack on his tongue and hair down to his elbows in jeans with coffee, I say, “Sorry position filled!”
Twitter: joubess
July 26, 2009 at 3:38 pm
Reed,
Fantastic article and sage advice! I agree with you, but you left one thing out. What about listening to others and having meaningful dialogue? I ask that you listen to me now in my comments below because I listened to you by carefully reading your article and comments.
There have been a couple of really great examples of people walking the extra mile lately:
When Professor Henry Gates (African American) was arrested in Cambridge by a white police officer, racial tensions boiled over with several over reactions from both sides; and then President Obama, knowing the Professor, was not careful enough with his words. More boiling over happened when the officer was interviewed on local news, and because of President Obama’s comments. The entire Cambridge police department took offense. This was a bomb waiting to explode on deep feelings of fear and racial hatred that have plagued America since its inception.
But the President walked the extra mile and called the officer directly, and called his friend, Professor Gates. Instead of allowing the races to face off against each other in a war of words or worse, he turned it into a teachable moment for all, including himself, and diffused the situation. He took responsibility for escalating a sensitive situation. When he did that, all the parties involved realized they were taking up pitch forks and taking sides when they should have been sitting down to figure out how to do better in the future.
There is a meeting being scheduled between the professor, officer and the President to discuss this and get to know each other over a beer at the White House. All parties are enthusiastically positive about this outcome. We all succeed when cooler heads prevail. I have one question for the President, can you do this more often??? I have a question for readers, can you imagine any President in your memory doing this?
I believe President Obama will do more to move positive race relations in this country forward than anyone has since the 60′s. We need to move past our past, and find a better, more unified future together.
Sometimes we walk that extra mile together. The Rachel Maddow Show found out a couple of weeks ago that the Iraqi national baseball team didn’t have any money for equipment, had very little equipment and no place to buy any if they did have money for it. One sentence on her show about the story caused a huge flood of offers of everything from money to shipping to donations of equipment to contacts in the U.S. and Iraqi governments. Because of this huge outpouring of generosity, the team now has all new equipment including cleats, gloves, and bats. An Olympic baseball rule book and a huge bucket of baseballs were purchased by RM herself. Custom made uniforms are being made and donated by a company in Seattle. The cleats, gloves, bats and other equipment were donated by a minority company in New York that makes professional grade baseball equipment and shoes. A shipping company in Illinois is providing free shipping for everything to Baghdad where the assistant coach will receive it. The team is psyched to say the least.
If we are to ever heal the wounds we caused to the Iraqi people, it will be American citizens to Iraqi citizens. War doesn’t build anything, peace and hands reached out to give rather than to get do. I hope this generosity to rebuild the Iraqi people’s lives will continue from here and not stagnate.
In the light of walking the extra mile, Peg and Reed, why do you respond to the young generation with their coffee, piercings, tattoos and casual dress automatically by refusing to walk the extra mile to find out what these odd-looking “kids” have to offer? Yes, it would be nice for you if they would come to interviews dressed in traditional corporate style with submissive attitudes and expectations of mediocrity and being pigeon-holed because you are comfortable with that. You’re missing your own point here. You are missing their true talents, too.
These kids are brilliant and completely comfortable with a 24/7/365 world and being wired to it. Maybe they don’t have the same sense of time urgency you have, but they will take their laptops, iPhones, and gear everywhere they go, even on vacation, and perform more useful, productive work for you each year than any employees you have now who are over 40. They are not about showing up on time, running out the clock, and leaving on time. They are about accomplishing things.
These kids know how to work smart because they are on the cutting edge of and completely comfortable with the technology we struggle to learn barely well enough. When I need something unfamiliar done fast on one of my websites, I get my 14 year old son to do it because he can do it in 5 minutes where it would take me hours. I watch and learn and ask questions.
Don’t write these kids off because you don’t like their looks or attitudes. You have to remember they are the future and know more about it than we can dream. They expect change and have already learned it’s the only thing they can count on. They are ready to roll with it without notice.
You must also realize that they will not be with you more than 3-5 years even if they love their jobs. Many will move on to greener pastures just to see them. They have no corporate loyalty at all. They are loyal to their friends, families, schools, teams and country. They learned to have no job loyalty because of what has been done to their parents’ generation–sudden layoffs after decades of faithful service, loss of insurance and financial ruin.
If you have an expectation they need to live up to, just ask them and they will follow your request. If they have to be on time, tell them, hey G, you gotta be on time, don’t be late. They will be on time. They don’t conform and ask permission to deviate. They do what they think they should be doing and apologize later for their independent actions.
They weren’t raised in a world that sees race, ethnic, religious or class differences as anything worth paying attention to. They are all equals in their age group and expect to be treated as equals by older generations because they will treat you as equals. They expect to be accepted for who they are because they accept you for who you are, before you disrespect them that is. It doesn’t bother them that you look different than they do, so stop letting it bother you that they look different from you. You will find them very respectful on human terms, but not on contrived terms like we were taught. They expect to have meaningful conversations and communications, and won’t listen if you lecture them and don’t listen to them. They live with far fewer hierarchies in their lives. Those who want regimentation are encouraged to join the military where people do that stuff every day.
I encourage you to stop trying to put these young people into slots you are comfortable with and go the extra mile to see what they can offer you with their very different attitudes and styles. Step out of your boxes and walk the extra mile in a new direction. You’ll be glad you did, though it will take some getting used to on your part. They already accept you because they never put you in a box. I also encourage you to listen and ask questions of them more. You will learn some wicked cool stuff.
You assume too much, Sherri – and I get awfully bored with people who simply don’t know what they are talking about.
You cannot possibly know how many people I have given free counseling to – or how many I have indirectly helped. For instance, just how many will never be late for an other interview.
Perhaps you should have given me a list of questions before you make your dreadful assumptions. It is not my job to learn some “wicked cool stuff” …. from these kids. – or you.
It is my job to provide my clients with skilled and professional talent – ready, able and willing to work. And knowing how to dress and behave in a corporate setting…. and, oh yes … be on time for work.
But what the hell do I know – I only have 28 years in the business.
Great article~!
I think there’s one piece of wisdom missing. To not take one self too (*wink Peg*) seriously. Referring to Peg Barry – what I find more discomforting than a younger generation not fitting right into the good old fantastic corporate world with their ‘irresponsible ways’, is that the people leading them into the workforce are holding views and attitudes like the ones you’ve put forth in the comments here.
Well there always has to be at least one like me commentating on worthier people’s efforts.
Reed missed one important rule on his list and that is: ‘Accept other people’s rules at your peril’.
John Donne also said: ‘Be thine own palace, or the world’s thy jail’.
Reed is of course misleading you dangerously with the ‘Extra Mile’ concept.
There are times when you just have to quit. There are times when you need the courage to quit.
You don’t need to look far for examples: abusive relationships, bad investments, living with poor decisions.
I feel he probably had something particular in mind when he wrote the article and it came from deep personal experience. There is always a danger when people believe they have found the key to their problems but then offer it as the panacea for everyone else’s.
I believe Reed is probably a genuinely nice man with good intentions however it’s always worth bearing in mind Confucious’ advice to: ‘Chew each grain of rice carefully’.
I agree with Chris’ comments, the extra mile can be taken two ways. I also think sometimes think society builds monuments to working hard and those that have suffered on the way to achievement are often put on a pedestal and maybe rightfully so, but I don’t think we’ve come on the planet to work hard, or suffer. I would agree though, that some of the most satisfying, spiritually fulfilling, world-improving feelings are often followed by dedication and hard work. But to those that are dedicated, that extra mile is usually taken without needing some external impetus (like peer pressure & social norms).
I think in accord with Chris’ sentiments is that if you go the extra mile for others is not always the most healthy choice to take and sometimes taking the extra mile is not the most healthy choice period. The world’s most generous people are also the most selfish.
to quote a story about gandhi:
“This principle is exemplified by a story of the great Indian nationalist leader Mahatma Gandhi. It was known that once he settled in a village he would immediately begin to serve the needs of its people. When a friend inquired if his reasons for serving the poor were purely humanitarian, Gandhi answered, “Not at al. Rather,” he said, “I am here to serve myself only, to find my own self-realization through the service of others.” True compassion toward our fellow human beings simultaneously serves ourselves-it is a mutual healing. Such generosity of spirit must be extended to all things, not just other human beings, to be considered ethical and merciful.”
reference: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mystery-happiness/200907/selfish-altruism
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SHERIE:
Wow! You certainly have given me much to think about. You’re absolutely right. The ability and desire to listen and have meaningful dialogue are important virtues. I regret not encluding them in my advice to young people. I carefully listened to you: all 1367 of your words. (I counted them.)
Obama is smart to have called a meeting over a beer to cement misunderstandings. I also think you are right that Obama is doing and will do a great deal to CONTINUE to improve Latino, Afran-American and causian relations. Can I remember any other President doing this. Yes! President Johnson.
I also most certainly agree with you that “war doesn’t build anything, peace and hands reached out to give rather than take do’.
Where we part, Sherrie, is appearance, defacing the body and good manners of our youth and many adutlts. Because one is dressed in tradional corporate attire does NOT suggest “submissive attitudes and expectation of mediocrity”. Do you think Obama is submissive and mediocre? Of cours not! But he dresses in “traditional corporate attire” and looks sharp! Unlike Clinton, you will NEVER see Obama in jeans.
Yes, many of our youth exhibit talent. But that talent tends to be in technology. Our youth is obsessed with it almost to the exclusion of all else. I have heard more than one parent lament that their children are so glued to the computer that they have become isolated and lost the abilitiy to establish relationships.
Regarding Professor Gates: though he may have “calibrated” his words better, I do believe Obama was absolutely right in calling the Cambridge police officer “stupid”. Why? Because the professor showed him his drivers liscence with an address matching the one on his house. At the moment, the police officer should have said, “Oh, sorry, sir, did not realize this is your home. May we help you?” The moment harrassment began, the officer was an unlawful intruder of private properity. Understandably Professor raised his voice.
Thank you for your comentary. I listened carefully!
PEG
Again, thank you for your support.
PETER K
Yes, indeed. Not taking ourselves too seriously is another important virtue I should have included. Thank you for underscoring it.
CHRIS” You are right! There are times when one should have the courage to quit. I applaud Governor Palen for having that courage.
PETER K: I absolutely agree with you: “The world’s most generous can be the world’s most selfesh” I truly am selfish because I get such a kick and thrill when I sense I may have made a meaningful difference to another. I don’t want to share that joy with anyone else . I feel like a kid in a candy jar…and you can’t have any!!!! Its all mine, get outta here!
LOL! Yes I imagine many Americans are thankful that Sarah has vacated the Governor’s chair and not going that extra mile.
Looking back on Reed’s message raisesw the question, ‘How do we decide whether the extra mile is worth it’?
If someone is being battered in a relationship then he or she has to leave. But what if the relationship is just exhausted – what to do?
CHRIS:
Ah, that’s the rub…and a good question: “When NOT to walk the ‘Extra Mile’”. As I said, never sacrifice Princple for Compromise. Always substitute Understanding for Stubbonrness. If one is being battered in a relationship common sense and Princple say LEAVE!! Physical violence can NOT be tolerated. However if a relationship is “exhausted” walk the “Extra Mile” to try to revive it. See a mariage councelor. If after walking that “Extra Mile” the relationship remains limpid, then both parties should walk away with mutal respect and understanding. I am divorced. But the woman I married remains a fine person. We walked away with Understanding and continue to have a frindly relationship. In a way she has become my sister. I even introduced her to the man she eventually married!
Twitter: patriciasinglet
July 27, 2009 at 9:47 am
Whether, when and where to go the extra mile definitely is a decision for each individual to make after listening to their own counsel.
Staying in a bad relationship is not going the extra mile. It is being self-destructive through the efforts of someone else. You stay in situations and relationships because it is what you think you deserve. Even when you leave those destructive relationships, you will recreate them with someone else unless you change your thoughts about yourself and what you think you deserve. Some people are addicted to the chaos of bad relationships. Others believe they deserve to be treated badly.
Coming from an incestuous childhood, I have been blessed that people came into my life that showed me that I don’t deserve that treatment from anyone.
.-= Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker´s last blog ..Lies Incest Perpretrators Tell Their Victims =-.
Patricia:
You make some excellent points, especially that no one, absolutely no one deserves abuse. Well said! Thanks!
Twitter: joubess
July 27, 2009 at 5:08 pm
@Peg,
You stated your opinion and I suggested an idea and course of action that is different. I did not presume to know who you are. I touched a sensitive nerve apparently.
Why do I owe you a series of questions? You didn’t ask me any. And I did ask you a question when I first addressed you in my previous comment. You didn’t answer it.
Kudos to you for giving your time and talents. Most of us have and I never suggested you did not. Do you resent giving? Do you want a medal?
And to presume you have nothing to learn from the young generation is arrogant to say the least. Kids are willing to learn. Why aren’t you?
I don’t care if you learn anything from me. I’m not your teacher. At this point, if you walked into my class with your attitude, I’d kick you out and give you detention.
What a sad state of affairs. If you have nothing to learn from anyone who doesn’t agree with you, why do you bother reading blogs and have your thinking challenged? Or do you school everyone whose opinion doesn’t agree with yours with a lecture? I don’t need a lecture from you about your job or years of experience.
I, too, have 3 decades under my belt. I am a science and math teacher after spending 20 years in chemistry research. I am a geek. I question and counter my own and other’s positions, opinions, and ideas. My life is defined by questioning everything and seeking deep understanding. Given your response to my comment, I need not worry about “deep” with you. There is little below the surface.
In case you don’t remember from school, teachers don’t get to be late EVER, unless it’s a life or death emergency. Students get detention for being late unless it’s excused when they check in at the office. They learn to be on time or they spend a lot of time being punished for being late.
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Reed,
I didn’t realize I wrote that many words. The comment sections of blogs don’t have word counters like the post editors do. You also give me much to think about.
Even though we disagree on appearance, I remind you that the hippies of the 60′s became the yuppies of the 80′s. Long hair was cut, jeans were replaced by suits, and vans were replaced by houses in the suburbs. Thank goodness leisure suits never caught on! These kids will mellow, and some will even have their tattoos removed and allow their piercings to close up. They will learn that self-expression doesn’t have to be worn totally on the outside.
There is politeness and respect in manners, which most of the young people I know are very good at. Then there is submissiveness, yielding automatically to the elder or the white guy (nothing personal intended, I’m in the deep south and racism is a fact of life here), telling someone what they want to hear. Young people were taught to not only defer to elders and whites, they were taught to fear what might happen to them if they didn’t. Some died for bucking the system.
Kids don’t learn that now mainly because most aren’t raised by their parents. They are being raised in daycare, school, before and after care, and heavily influenced by their peers and the media. It’s necessary if both parents work full-time. I don’t think it is where society should be headed. Parents really should raise their kids themselves and be their biggest influence. But risking living on one paycheck in such an uncertain world is not something many are willing to do.
This may not have been true when you were in the work force, when employees were not assets to be bought and sold (employee salaries in some companies moved on the balance sheet to assets). Expectations of mediocrity and submissiveness come with many corporate jobs today and over the past two decades. After a few years of performance reviews that continually tell you you’re average, and being told to change x one year, y the next, and then being asked why you changed x the third year grinds a spirit down. Then you begin being warned that there will be layoffs and early retirements coming. The solution? Work longer days and harder for no more pay or move on to other jobs, experience similar treatment, then eventually retire or finely find your right place. It’s why so many of us become self-employed or go into public service jobs where things are a bit more self-controllable. Or both.
I’ve not only seen President Obama in jeans on several occasions, I’ve also seen him in casual slacks and shirtless in a bathing suit. He wears a suit when at work, but not all the time. He wears jeans to baseball and basketball games, he loosens his tie on informal interviews and he takes off his jacket in the oval office, of all the conventional no-no’s in the world. He has been teased in the media about his “grandma” jeans. His reply is he likes them loose and comfortable, not tight and sexy.
Our youth are no more obsessed with technology than we are with TV. They don’t watch much TV, they wait for what they want to watch to download into iTunes or watch it on YouTube instead. As a parent myself, I used to worry about my son being antisocial. He is far from it. Kids have extensive social networks and talk to each other continuously, mostly by text and chat. As they get older (past the video game thing), they start using those technology skills to get things done. They text where we would call or gather at a favorite hangout.
They actually get together more than we did because they can set things up easily at the last minute. They Twitter their peeps and it’s a go. They also have friends all over the world whom they chat with regularly. If anything, I observe them to have more relationships that are closer because they have the technology to manage a larger group of friends. Emailing or texting my son to come to dinner did take some getting used to, however, it saves me steps or my voice (yelling upstairs).
About Prof. Gates. My feeling is the officer may have been the first to overreact, and the arrest should not have happened because it was Prof. Gates’ house. I think the police took President Obama’s remark incorrectly. He did not call the officer stupid, Obama said he acted stupidly. Very different meaning. The President did not criticize the officer’s person or character, he criticized his actions in this particular incident. I’m just glad this hit the national news because it had a more positive outcome than if it had stayed quiet in Cambridge. And it started another important dialogue Americans need to have.
I am curious about what President Johnson did. I was too little when Johnson was President to know of anything specific. I know he was the President who pushed through and signed the civil rights act. I know Truman was the President who racially integrated the military. Would you please tell me the story?
And please don’t count the words this time…it’s not a worthy use of your time. If you want to know how many the easy way, copy and paste the text into a word processing program new document, save it, and use the tool menu to click on word count.
Sherri
.-= Being the Change I Wish to See – Sherri´s last blog ..Racism Alive and Well on 100th Anniversary of NAACP Founding =-.
Sherrie:
You cover a lot of ground and, again, give me much to think about. I had not seen Obama in jeans. But that’s not the point. The point I was trying to make is he does dress in “corporate attire” without being “submissive”
I agree 100% with everything us say about the Gates situation.
When President Johnson signed the Civil Rights Act it was a defining moment…a moment Obama I’m sure applauds. A moment on which he intends to build.
I did not mean to be critical about counting your words. At the outset of your post you remarked you hope I’d be listening. I may have not “calabrated” my words in the best way, but I was trying to convey, “Yes, I was Listening”.
As I say you covered a good deal of ground in you last post. I thank you for taking the time and thought for doing so. Best wishes, Reed
Twitter: joubess
July 27, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Hi Reed,
I didn’t think you were being critical about counting the words in my comment. I am amused, surprised and amazed. No one has ever done that on anything I’ve written before. I suggested the word processor method because it must have taken a lot of time.
You are right that corporate dress doesn’t imply submissiveness. I was playing devil’s advocate.
I have seen some of the corporate world drive its talent into submission. It wasn’t always like that, even when I was working for the corporate world in the late 80′s and early 90′s. It changed during the second decade of my chemistry career. There have always been office politics, but they took on a sinister quality that doesn’t seem to be going away.
I’m glad to be out of it and wouldn’t go back even though the money and benefits were far better.
Best wishes to you, too, Reed,
Sherri
.-= Being the Change I Wish to See – Sherri´s last blog ..Racism Alive and Well on 100th Anniversary of NAACP Founding =-.
And a last comment from Reed!
“This will be my last “Post.” But before I say good-bye I want very much to thank all those who responded for their time and good thoughts. What an interesting and stimulating dialogue we had!
I also thank Corinne Edwards for inviting me to be a guest author on her blog. It was not only a great pleasure, it was an enormous privilege.
Goodbye, good health and God speed!”
THANK YOU, REED, AND YOU ARE WELCOME. IT WAS A LOT OF FUN.
YOU SURE STIRRED UP A FIRESTORM. LOVE THAT!
But, don’t go away. We need your comments on other blogs here!
Wise words. Check out these “Words of Wisdom http://yovia.com/blogs/mekeshapryer/
“Do do not boast of tomorrow,
For you do not know what a day brings forth.”
.-= mekesha pryer´s last blog ..Words of Wisdom =-.
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Those are one of the wisest advises you will ever heard for the youth today… very well said. Thank you very much. Very sincere here.
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Gut feeling is always what I read here, I think this is true. I always follow my gut when ever there are things I am in doubt. Anyway educational background is a must on this side of business specially on the writing skills, but I tell you too, if you have the desire and persuasiveness in your hear and the will power to learn more, I think there is no way for you too fail.
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Nice article and sage advice! I agree with you, but you left one thing out. What about listening to others and having meaningful dialogue? I ask that you listen to me now in my comments below because I listened to you by carefully reading your article and comments. Thanks for sharing.
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It is being self-destructive through the efforts of someone else. You stay in situations and relationships because it is what you think you deserve. Even when you leave those destructive relationships, you will recreate them with someone else unless you change your thoughts about yourself and what you think you deserve. .
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Dear Nigines -
History has a way of repeating.
When we finally “get it” it stops. You are right. You get what you think you deserve.
Thank you for weighing in on this important topic.
Come back and visit us again soon.
I have been reading blogs about advices and I just have to close it up when in the middle of my reading I just confuse on many terms but this one you really laid it well and you simplified things. Everything is in its proper order, about how important to forgive , forget and moving on in our lives. That we have to look at the big picture and forget about the grudges that we have.. Thanks for the advices on how to become and entrepreneur in a young age. Thank you and please do post guides like this on your next issue…list of fat burning foods
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