It’s so lovely to be involved with a married man.
He can see you between nine AM and five PM., weekdays,
on alternate Tuesday nights,
his night out with the boys,
and any time his wife visits her mother in Texas.
It’s broadening to travel with a married man.
He knows this fabulous restaurant in Akron,
there are cultural things in Wichita
you never imagined,
and if you can fly out on Wednesday
he’ll get you a ticket,
but he’s not free until after his six o’clock meeting,
and of course you know
not to pick up the phone in the room.
It’s so comforting to see a married man.
He’s never around when you have the flu,
your face erupts,
your back goes out,
you’re overdrawn,
or in the morning
when the mascara smudges under your eyes,
on your birthday, Christmas, New Year’s, and
the Fourth of July . . ..
It’s so sexy to be with a married man.
He’s so eager,
not having slept with his wife for ten years now,
being misunderstood, deprived and all,
he knows positions you’ve only read about,
and he’ll do anything to save you
from being a sex-starved fossil,
from herpes, and god forbid, AIDS,
and even promiscuity,
although he wouldn’t stand in your way
if the right guy came along,
but dammit, that man would have to pass muster,
all silly talk anyway -
because of his knowing you were meant to be together –
as soon as his wife’s mother dies
(he owes her that),
the last kid graduates college,
and his lawyer transfers things —
Oh, it’s so lovely.
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January 28, 2011 at 8:07 am
Corinne,
Great post my friend and so very true….I will NEVER be involved with a married man….I have been on the other end of that spectrum and I know the hurt and pain it causes to all parties involved. There’s nothing good that comes out of it! I have reposted – everyone gets the short end of the stick….
Your BFF,
Nancy
Aloha Corrine, love this post and full of learning experiences that at times we deny ourselves to accept the fact. I believe women has the knowledge and gift to rely on our intuitions and we usually are keen on most things around us. Except when it comes to the opposite sex then life gets a bit more challenging, in making decisions what is best for us. We pry a lot in other things we want to figure out and a relationship shouldn’t be any different. But it still is, even in the present generation and maybe in the future.
I hope we as women can learn that life has great partners to offer us, if we are patient enough to find out who we are, so when he comes along he will see who you are and appreciate you. Glad I came by and thanks for sharing! Lani
Twitter: miraclady
January 29, 2011 at 10:24 am
Nancy, you will never get involved with a married man because you KNOW the pain when the wife finds out.
They always do. Men are sloppy about covering their tracks.
And 90% of the time, they do not leave their wives. And then, if they do, their new relationship does not work out.
Everybody loses.
Twitter: miraclady
January 29, 2011 at 11:42 am
Dear Lani -
Welcome. Happy to have you here with such a brilliant comment.
Liked this:
“Except when it comes to the opposite sex then life gets a bit more challenging, in making decisions what is best for us. ”
I think it’s called lust.
Come back soon. We are very much on the same track in life.
Twitter: MichelleVan
January 28, 2011 at 12:58 pm
OH MY! I agree. nothing (even a lawyer as a friend) can fix this one.
Twitter: miraclady
January 29, 2011 at 11:44 am
Hi Michelle -
Most of the time.
The only way to fix it is to have the courage to end the relationship.
- and find a person who is available.
Corinne: I just wrote what I thought to be thoughtful comments to your blog on Love. It was rejected because it was spammy. How can that be! Puzzeled, Reed
Twitter: miraclady
January 31, 2011 at 1:13 pm
Dear Reed -
Please, please resubmit. Some kind of glitch.
It never came through and we always like to hear your brilliant comments.
Twitter: makegirlfriends
January 29, 2011 at 2:31 pm
@Corinne – you are so right it’s always a lose lose situation – you know I wrote a blog on affairs and I never posted maybe it’s time I post???!
Thank you BFF,
Nancy
Twitter: miraclady
January 29, 2011 at 6:53 pm
It is time, Nancy,
This poem may appear to be slightly humorous and cynical -
but every line in it is RAW TRUTH. Either from my own experience or close friends.
It is time to start coming out behind our shame.
Post it. I’ll support. it.
It is time for truth.
Twitter: makegirlfriends
January 30, 2011 at 8:54 am
Okay my friend I will post it on 2/10/11 – how appropriate this would have been our 10th anniversary….
Thanks for your support and encouaragment; who knows how many women will be encouraged by the blog – I know that it will be healing for me,
In gratitude to you,
Nancy
Corinne,
It works both ways here. I did emergency medicine for years but as a PA worked the Friday,Saturday, Sunday and Monday night shifts. Sometimes when the cats away… Just like wives, husbands can get bad news that hurts too. It isn’t about married people. People who want the fast easy way out are a dime a dozen! A person has to tell themselves they don’t need a “friend” at any cost. Just like you do for your children, you have to set boundaries for yourself. Mine kept me so focused that when someone dropped a subtle hint, I usually completely missed it.
I like this post, it is so real from the woman’s point of view.
Twitter: miraclady
January 31, 2011 at 1:17 pm
You are right, Bruce. It does work both ways.
A Cheater has to be involved with another person who is also cheating.
Yes, the post is real because it is. But, I do think women are more gullible than men.
(And romantic in that they feel “true love ????????? always wins out)
It does not usually.
You have to set boundaries for yourself – not just others.
Oh Corinne, that sounds pretty lonely. I guess it would work well for someone who’s not interested in a relationship and has no conscience
. Fortunately I’ve never had this experience and I would hope I would be strong enough to leave the situation if I ever found myself in it, but lust is a tricky emotion.
Twitter: miraclady
January 31, 2011 at 1:19 pm
Hi Keller -
It is good that you have never had the experience – but you are lucky.
Some situations in life make us very vulnerable to things like having an affair.
And lust and attention are great draws.
As you say, “tricky.”
Hello Corinne
Good post and I hope it helps all women think twice about being involved with a married man. Very well written. I loved it.
thanx
Vickie
Twitter: miraclady
February 1, 2011 at 1:35 pm
Well, Vickie -
I have a feeling that a normal woman who tries this scenario only does it once.
She is cured of the inclination!
Twitter: happmakernowco
February 1, 2011 at 12:19 pm
Married people are off limits I have always felt. When I was married to my ex I had a woman who was going after him. I just called her up told her she better back off, etc and that was the end of that. Guess I should have let her have him. There are a lot of wonderful people in this world, but I think you can tell a woman that is on, shall I say, “The Move”.
Good article Corinne and I do hope it helps those on the move to think twice.
Thanks sweet lady,
Debbie
Twitter: miraclady
February 1, 2011 at 1:38 pm
Dear Debbie -
I guess you did that woman a favor when you warned her to back off.
Why should we pass on rotten apples.
This is true -
” I think you can tell a woman that is on, shall I say, “The Move”.”
I say let them find out the heartbreak for themselves. Nothing is going to stop them.
Twitter: happmakernowco
February 2, 2011 at 4:21 pm
I think you are right Corinne. As women we can tell when they are “On the Move”.
You have to consider that when a partner is unfaithful it has already happened in their head.
Twitter: miraclady
February 4, 2011 at 2:18 pm
Dear Chris -
Other than a serial cheater, you are absolutely right.
That partner has been thinking about it for a while.
Although this is a cynical post, it is all true.
Miss hearing from you. It is time for an update. How is all this disaster in the Middle East affecting you?
Thinking about you.
Hi Corinne: Dating a married man is a no win situation. Nobody wins. I wonder if women realize the financial complications. Most men have their money all tied up in trust funds. If by chance he should leave his wife and marry you, he will most likely cheat on you too. You will end up with no money and a broken heart. DON’T DO IT! Find somebody suitable. You are worth it.
Twitter: miraclady
February 6, 2011 at 1:40 pm
Dear June -
You have brought up point no one has mentioned.
MONEY.
Some women go after rich and powerful men – thinking, especially if he is older – they will be very rich some day.
Any wealthy man already has his financial house in order.
Everything is in a unbreakable trust. He protects his family first.
They may inherit a little money. But not much.